Society and the Single Girl-"You've Got Mail"

Whenever I think of online dating, I think of the movie You've Got Mail. You know the one where Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks fall forever in love, via computer screen. It's something so romantic, yet so naive. Someone can actually use their computer for more than just buying too many shoes. You can use it to meet people! OMG. Wait, that's what the entire blogging community is made out of. Virtual connections. I actually met my real life friend Emma on the internet. (We go to the same college). But can the same thing work for dating?
Shows like Catfish give me the creeps because they open your eyes and make you realize that the person that you're talking to behind the screen gasp, may not be who they said that they are. Then there's the whole aspect of people who are online date are just creepy predators who are just looking for their hormonal fix. And that just scares me. I have trust issues as it is, guys. Why would I be able to trust someone who I met on the internet? I tried to trust someone who my friend gave me their number to, and all that did was get me a creep stalker. (Single girl problems at their finest) So, the internet is no different right?
But here's the thing, I am kind of curious about the whole thing. Maybe I could meet my soulmate on the internet. (You all remember my post about soulmates, right?) Maybe I could meet someone awesome.
I've read Rachel's from Sunshine and Sinatra adventures about her online dating. I mean they are pretty crazy. But still I am curious about this Tinder. I've never tried it, and I'm actually not interested in looking for someone to settle down and put a ring on it. I'm an awkward wallflower so maybe this might be a good idea. I'm not even out of my teens yet, so that's kind of off the table. Maybe it could be fun. Maybe it could be something worth trying out, or a complete and total disaster. What do you all think?

Society and the Single Girl on Valentine's Day.

Okay, so every year like clockwork it happens. On Feb 14th, my social networking feeds I see them clouded with people talking about one thing. Their boyfriends, their girlfriends, whoever they are trying to impress or woo. People that they love, and they just really want everyone that they follow or that they are friends with to know. And for the people who don't have anyone to do that for them, it just kind of sucks. In my opinion anyways.
One thing that I really don't like about Valentine's Day is that it raises the bar of what we expect people to be. I think that we don't need a day in the calendar year for someone to buy us diamonds, and tell us that we are the best part of their existence. Yes, I am aware that it's nice. However, I think that there should be more to it than just that. I think that if you love someone, than you shouldn't have to do it on command, rather you should do it when you want to. I think that it adds a lot of pressure to relationships, because if someone doesn't buy you roses today then they are the worst person ever. It makes the guy sweat over something that has to be perfect. It makes them do or say things that perhaps they shouldn't be saying because they don't actually mean it, and are going along with it for the whole reason on what that's what Valentine's Day is supposed to be about.
As someone who got rejected one Valentine's Day (It was 8th grade when no one really understood relationships anyways), I can honestly say that Valentine's Day does have that effect on some people. However, I realize something else. Just because you don't have a Valentine doesn't mean you can't celebrate it.
This year, I've decided to totally decided to embrace the whole day of love kind of thing. I've painted my nails red and pink, in honor of the day of love kind of thing. I even bought some Valentine's to send to some of my friends that are farther away, and a few to my family and friends. I've gotten some Valentine's Day themed cupcakes, just because cupcakes are awesome. On Friday, I don't have any interesting plans other than to hang out with my dog, and just watch movies or Gilmore Girls. I've gotten a long weekend from school, so I have the day off. And that's okay, because I know that my day is going to be awesome nonetheless.
Wanna do something, and you find yourself Valentineless? No prob. Grab a movie, go shopping, and most important grab your single girls. You all will have a better time than those people in relationships anyways. 

Society and the Single Girl; Thing I Notice and Tend to Dislike About the Love Patterns of Girls.

Disclaimer: The following blog is about my opinion of relationships, and a rant that I have developed based on what I've seen nowadays. If this offends you, this means one of two things. One, you're a person who gets offended easily, or these things could pertain to you. Then that means that you perhaps need to reevaluate your lifestyle. Thank you and good night. I also want to say that not all people are like this, myself included. I'm just honestly wondering how some people can.

I hate it when girls lower themselves or change themselves for a guy or a boyfriend. I mean isn't the point of relationships to make someone like you for you? It's not like you have to change to be liked. If you did, then that would be no fun. It would be like getting to know this cloned verison of him in a dress. I mean come on. It's not cute when someone agrees with everything that you say just for the sole purpose of them liking you more. To find a connection that you crave, shouldn't you be honest? Just saying. Telling someone that you like to watch or play football when in reality you hate it isn't exactly the coolest thing ever. Plus, there's that whole respect factor. How can someone you love respect you when you're throwing yourself at them? Chances are they probably won't.
I feel like there's no chase anymore. If the cheese isn't hard to get, then the person won't cherise it. I believe that you should treat your significant other like they are a diamond, because they are just that precious to you. If you feel like they are like a CZ...then yeah that's a problem.
I also hate it when girls say that they are in love with their significant other, or when they say they are going to be married one day. Before you all want to have me beheaded, let me explain my reasoning. I don't mean this for a couple that's been going out for months or years. I mean this for the people that are really young and or immature, or have been going out for a couple of weeks. I believe that the love and the person has to kind of mature for it to work. Otherwise, it's just crappy infatuation in which you think that you love someone when you really just want to be in love.
I hate it when girls get mad when their significant other doesn't text them back right away. Okay for starters, phones aren't meant to be glued to their sides. I'm not a huge fan of my cellular device. The only time that I really like to use it is when I talk to my friends who are in the different countries. I tend to ignore people who text me, I'm not even going to lie to you people on that one. When I'm writing, I'm in the  zone. When I'm at school, I'm learning. I'm addicted to my phone, like the rest of society is. However, I don't (unless it's important for me to get in contact with you) yell at people or question their reasoning for not answering their cell phones. We all have lives that are beyond the screen. Girls, please remember that. Don't spam them, because that's just freaking annoying. Then, they will tend not to be attracted to you so much.
Finally, it bothers me when girls completely shelter themselves off with their boyfriend. For example, all they do is go to their house and hang out with them and not going out? Not cool honey. Sometimes, hanging out at the house is fine. However, sometimes you guys need a life that's not sheltered away from each other, such as sitting at home doing God knows what..well I try to make this blog as PG as possible, so...The problem with this is that by doing this you basically become sheltered which is unhealthy. Do something else other than hang out at his house. Like you know, get fresh air?
Seriously, girlfriends nowadays bug me. It's not all about your boyfriend because he usually finds that to be unattractive that your constantly up his ass. Get a job, a hobby, get some friends. He has a life, and so can you. That way, your relationship can be I don't know, healthy!

Society and the Single Girl; Expectations

I would like to introduce this new feature on my blog, called Society and the Single Girl. It's about how society and it's expectations of romantic relationships, in addition to my opinions of a certain matter. I have three sources of inspiration for this article. The first, is Carrie Bradshaw. The second is Helen Gurely's Sex and the Single Girl. The third is the feature on a blog I read called Move on Over Carrie (http://theunreal-life.blogspot.com/2013/11/move-over-carrie.html) So, without further adue, here is my own little screwed up verison and opinions of this.)

In life we have expectations on everything. We expect certain outcomes based on societal norms. We expect that when we go to bed, that we will wake up in the morning. We expect that when we eat food, we will no longer be hungry.
The same can be said about romantic relationships too. When going into a relationship, we expect certain things. Some are different then others. For example, let's take a boy who likes a girl. If the girl says yes to him when he asks her out, he expects certain things. He expects that she thinks that they are going out on a date. He expects that she likes him too. However, the girl could have different expectations of the date. She could, for all we know, expect that he's going to be turning into this amazing guy, and they will live happily ever after.
The reality is different than the expectation. Expectations can cloud the reality because when the expecations are not met, than we will try to mold them into being what we want to be.
Our romantic relationships are affected the most by this. For example, take someone who falls head over heels in crazy love. She expects that the relationship will last forever, and that they will go on and get married. However, the expectation can cloud the judgement of her boyfriend treating her badly, and making her feel like she needs him more than she actually does.
A common love pattern I see on social media sites is that people refer to their significant others as the one. Referring to people who you barely know, or people that you put up on a pedestal as the one can be bad for every party involved.
In all actuality, going into things with the expectation is something that we as humans can not avoid. By creating people that are different than what they actually are we are living a lie.
My personal opinion of all this expectations is to simply try to go in and not having any. That way, you don't have to feel like you have to live up to the schema that society and yourself has created. That way, you can just be, VS than aspire to be. Expecations can ruin relationships.
My expectations for my future boyfriends are that he understands that I have to do my own thing at times, that he's important to me as well as I hope to be for him, that my two closest friends are males, and they are the best people in the world, and that I have my quirky moments. I expect that I'm treated with respect, dignity, and like a lady. I demand that same amount of respect from him, and I hope that he knows that.
Expectations can cloud judgement. By trying to not have them? We simply can not have them, but by not created them we have the opportunity to live freely.