Showing posts with label flirting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label flirting. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Somethings to Do When You Like A Guy.

Disclaimer; These are suggestions, merely. You could take my advice, or you could simply brush it off. I am not in any way trying to tell you all what to do in any way humanly possible, these are just some suggestions that could make the whole process easier.
There are so many articles on the internet about whether or not someone likes you, flirting, and other things. It can be so confusing that your heads probably spinning and you don't know which way to turn. As if liking a guy isn't confusing enough!
Your problems can be solved with one click, thanks to online articles. But even then, that can be confusing, at least when I did it, I found it to be. Here's some things that I have found to be truthful about what to do when you like a guy, and how to know if the dude actually likes you. Also, my blog entry from a few days back may perhaps be of help to you, so if you haven't checked out please do!

  1. You should probably figure out if he likes you or not. Usually, and I don't mean to sound completely vague here, it will be pretty easy to tell. If not here's some clear indicators that he may or may not like you:
  • His pupils dilate when he's talking to you. Yes, this may be hard to tell, but I think that in due time it will become easier and easier to notice.
  • He compliments you. On anything from your brains, to your looks. It all is a compliment with him. Naturally a cute boy complimenting you would make you smile. Needless to say if he compliments you it's a very good thing. 
  • If he's nervous around you. This means shuffling around, picking his words very carefully, and basically him acting like a nervous wreck around you. If he's nervous around you, thus he's worried about impressing you and trying to be the perfect guy. 
  • If he's reaching out to you via social networking sites, or texting, than that's a good sign. Bonus points? If he's random about what he texts you, then he's looking at any excuse to talk to you. Random or not random.
  • If he's smiling at you while you guys are talking that's always a good sign. 
  • Apparently, if he mirrors you, he's into you? I don't know, I honestly never really noticed this before, but I guess that it's the case?
There are countless examples, and I can go on forever. However, if he likes you, I think it's more obvious and that you'll know that he does. Therefore, if you're not sure, and my online tips didn't help you, then you should probably google it. There's a ton of articles that explain it better than me. 
2. Okay, so you think he may like you. Yay. Try to talk to him. Talking is always good because then you can talk to each other and be friendly. However, ask about him, and his day. Ask about his weekend if it's an early day in the week. If he's someone that likes to read or play music ask how's that going. If you can't talk to a guy than you're going to have a problem having a relationship with the guy. Also, I realize that some people have trouble talking to the person that they like. Guys are humans, and we're human. Notice the similarity? At first, talking to a guy you like won't be easy, but then in due time, it will get better. Comminication is the key to starting to every relationship. So go, talk!

3. Try to get his number! There's so many tricks of the trade to doing so. I usually give guys my number so that they can text me. That way, they can make the first move and it's not weird. If they text you right away or a few hours later, than generally they are interested. However, if they text you within a few days later...then he's not interested. Or if he doesn't text you ever. Yeah, than that can be a problem.

4. Find ways to hang out. If you're in the same class, then get together to study. If you're in the workplace, drive to work together if your car isn't working. If something that's interesting to both of you like, invite him to it! The point is to try to hang out.
5. Show him what a sweet person you are. Meaning, you're a nice person I hope. Let it show. Boys like nice girls.
6. I don't feel comfortable doing this, but touching his arm or him gently is always a good thing. It's basically something that you have to be comfortable doing because if you don't....then you don't. The bottom line is that don't do something that you feel uncomfortable with. If you do feel comfortable with doing so, then gently brush his arm and shoulder. But, like I said, it's something that you should be comfortable doing.
7. Lastly, just be you.  Otherwise, that's not good that he's liking someone who you're not. You're awesome, so let it show. 

Liking guys is a tricky matter when everything goes south. We don't know what to do, because we feel like we're frozen. However, to all of the girls liking a guy remember one thing. It will be okay. For further research, try Wikihow, which I find to be extremely helpful. 

Thursday, November 21, 2013

What Not to Do When You Like A Guy

Okay so like most people I am a compleete and total spaz when it comes to the opposite sex. I have no idea how to flirt, and I'm pretty sure that no guy will ever refer to me as sexy. Which is fine, because I'd rather be classy not sexy. I get so confused, and of course, I refer to online articles to help me. However, I do have some knowledge about the opposite sex, and I am here to tell you what not to do when you like a guy. This has been bought to you by my personal experience, with some comic insights.
1. When you like a guy do not call him dude or bro. Why? I call all of my friends who are guys bro. Those are people who I maintain a platonic relationship with, and plan on continue to. If you would like to avoid the friend zone, then avoid those words. 
2. When you like a guy, don't get too serious too quick. Yes, he may like you. But no need to change your last name on Facebook, or relationship status. That's just creepy. And wierd. 
3. Show him your available but not plaster it on your forehead. The same goes about your interest. Yes, you like him, and he makes you happy but I think that there's no need to text him every single day. Or every single minute. You get the picture. The point is you want to hint that you're available, not wear it on your shirt. This is a way to get him to not be into you. If you see that he's getting interested than amp up the flirting. But until then, just stay subtle.
(Don't do this....)
4. Don't mention your ex. This will make them think that they are still in your life or you still have feelings for him. Which may or may not be true. We get that youtr ex was a douche, but please keep him out of the convo.
5. Don't do da creep. You know what I mean. Don't show up where you know he will be. That my friend is known as stalking. You want to make him happy to see you, not want to call the police when your around.
6. Keep your crush offline. Tweeting lryics and tagging him in them? Kind of creepy for someone whose just a crush.
Basically, keep it classy. I've liked so many guys despite my dismal relationship history. The bottom line is to be a lady, because then you will be treated like one. Plain and simple. We all make mistakes when it comes to relationships, and I am no exception either. But by not doing these things, your chances are higher when it comes to making it actually happen. 
What are your dating tips? Comment below, or contact me through Twitter, or email!
Stay tuned tomorrow for a blog entry about what to do when you like a guy, because all of us wallflowers can use the help!