#inspirationmovement-Press Delete

Some people that we surround ourselves with sometimes can be toxic, and not good for us. They are the type of people that bring you down, and the type of people that make you question whether or not things are actually okay, when they really are.
Some people just suck, in plain English.
I believe that you have to surround yourself with people that make you happy. That make you feel good about yourself, instead of completely horrible about you're actions. I think that it sucks that some people just take out their negativity out on you, when you have nothing to do with it.
What I've been doing lately is putting limits on people who do make me feel good. I believe that you are who you surround yourself with, and I couldn't agree more. Therefore, when you surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself, then you do.
I am blessed to say that I hang out with some of the coolest people ever. Some of my closest friends include Elisia, Emma, Gabriel, and a few other ones I met in high school. I try to hang out with people who bring me up instead of down. If a person makes me feel uncomfortable, then I do in fact have the right to say 'I'm uncomfortable hanging out with this person, I don't want to be around them anymore.' And then, I limit the time that I spend with them. I have the power to do that, and no, I'm not a horrible person for feeling this way. I'm done with hanging out with people who make me feel bad about my ways, and I'm done with people who want me to be the version of me that they want me to be. I'm tired of being around people who make me feel negatively, or are just negative in general. I have that power to press delete, and so do you.
We often don't realize that we have to power to get rid of toxic relationships that we have. Whether they are platonic, or just love gone bad, we do in fact have the power to tell people to go away if we don't want them in our lives anymore. I rarely get upset about my relationships now, because the people that I hang out with make me feel good about myself, versus bad.
I feel like that's something that we all can take. Pressing delete can actually be a good thing. 

Out With Friendship; In With Competition

                It disgusts me that some women don’t understand the meaning of being a good friend. In the hit movie Mean Girls, we see the evolution of clichés, when women are at each other’s throats and talking behind each other’s backs. Although that movie was a comedy, you got to admit that there is some truth to it. Since when do your friends become your greatest enemy, and since when do you have to wear your poker face around people that you deem to be your friends?

                Whatever happened to having each others’ backs like the women in Sex and the City? Women who care about each other, not plotting to take behind their backs?

                Society has slowly enforced the mean girl culture, which is something that really disgusts me. I’m not enforcing the hippy concept of “peace and love”, but I do think that we should at least have respect for each other’s wants, needs, and desires. True friendship is something that is give and take, not going behind the backs of your friends to conquer.

                When it comes right down to it, some do not grasp this concept. It’s upsetting, because I believe that in order to have a friend, you have to be one. To be a friend, you have to care about them, listen to their problems when they have them, and be their support system by being their biggest cheerleader when they are happy, and their therapist when they are upset.

                It makes me angry to even think that the concept of female friendship doesn’t exist anymore. It’s perhaps extinct in our culture. We have to outdo each other, in order to be at the top. The concepts of having respect for others is being thrown out the window, because all we care about is making everyone else look bad. We bake or eat cookies with friends. Now, we just crumble them like cookies and leave their crumbs scattered around. Meanwhile, the one who crushed the cookies was the one that was standing tall and proud like Superman. But instead of a cap, they wear high heels.

                Whether they are out for a guy or a coveted position, it’s safe to call what Cady Haron deems as ‘girl world’ an outright jungle. It’s survival of the fittest. However, the actual fighting differs. In a jungle, the fighting is physical and bloody. None the less, the animals know how to cut you to the point where it hurts. In ‘Girl World’, it may not be physical, but it still packs a major blow. Instead of the fighting happening right in front of you, it has to be behind closed doors. The fighting is sneaky, and has to be executed right in order to be effective.

                I wonder why we have to make everything into a full blown war with each other? We’re not in the high school hallways anymore, we’re in a college campus. But still, the drama still exists, and best friends are still having it out with each other on texting and social networking sites. Although it’s toned down a bit, I still can’t help but wonder will friendship ever triumph the desire to be the better one. Or will friends turn into colleagues, and business contacts.