Facebook Official?

When I first got a Facebook, I had to share everything. This was in freshman year, when I thought that everyone actually cared about what I was thinking, and what I was going to eat for dinner. Back in the day, everyone seemed to share everything. This was before Twitter, and before hashtags came into effect. Nowadays, Facebook has been getting less attention than in the past. One of the things is changing your relationship status.

Back in 2008, the first thing that you did after getting in a relationship (besides calling your best friend and turning your claddaugh ring around) was log onto Facebook and transform from 'single' to 'in a relationship.' Get ready to rake in the likes, people. 

I recently read this article about keeping relationships on or offline. It's a debate that has been around as long as the internet. Some people don't change their relationship status. While going to friend's profiles on my personal account, I have noticed that some people often opt to keep their relationship status private or not list it at all. On other accounts, I see people in a relationship and either choose to have their significant other in their default and post occasionally such as anniversaries. That's my opinion of relationships done right. And of course, there's those who constantly post about their relationship. You know those people who make every other status that they write daily about their boyfriend. And of course, the endless amount of selfies that are posted. Every. Damn. Day. 

I personally have mixed feelings about whether or not you should quickly change your relationship. Back in the high school hallways, if you didn't want to post that you were suddenly off the market then you were often perceived that you were ashamed of being in a relationship with that person. Oh, yes high school logic.  

I do think that you should change your relationship status, but eventually. I personally am a fan of the whole not posting it right away thing. I'm talking about waiting for a few days or weeks to pass before posting. I believe that relationships are a private thing, so if you don't want to be online, there shouldn't be a pressure. If you told your mom, your BFF, and your cat, who else really matters? At least, in my opinion no one does. 

We live in an age where it seems like everyone cares about what's on their dinner plates, and taking selfies has become a daily thing. Life as we know it has changed, as a result of technology. So has relationships. This, my friends, is known as becoming 'Facebook official.' That is a bigger step than perhaps meeting the parents. 

To post or not to post about your relationship is up to you. However, it should be done your way, and that's it. Take that internet. 

A Life Update

Hey everyone!
It's been a while since I've done one of these, so I figured today would be as good of a time as any to update you all about what I've been up to lately.

• I'm going to LA! I'm leaving Wednesday for the ACP journalism conference. I'm so excited because I've never been to California before, and I am looking foreword to the conferences. I'll also be sure to be blogging about it when I get back. In the mean time, I'll be having some lovely people guest posting. 
• School and work on #repeat. Let me tell you it's not easy being green. Things have finally slowed down in my life since I've dropped a class, and for the first time I'm actually really happy with things. 
• I discovered red velvet oreos. That is all.
• New haircut! I recently went short with my hair. I was looking for a change, and I decided on a whim to cut about five inches off. That's a huge change for me, because I rarely ever trim my hair. I am honestly so happy with my new hair, and I am so glad that I decided to go short. I'm still getting used to having 'medium length hair,' so any styling suggestions are welcome. Let me know what you all think! Also special shout out to Elisia, who held my hand and then listen to me obsess over it.

Before: 

After: 

                                                    New haircuts mean multiple selfies right?;) 

• I've been so lucky to have awesome friends in my life, such as Elisia, Griffin, and Gabriel. I've been a hot mess lately, and having them for moral support is always a good thing. I'm realizing how lucky (and rare it is) to have such awesome friends! 

• I'm also actually attempting to make plans and have fun. This is a first since I never make time for my friends other than in breaks and summer. It's important to have fun! 

What have you all been up to lately? 

Why It's Important to Love Yourself.

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LOVE. Last week, was the week of celebrating love for the special people in your life. However, there's something about the importance of self love and acceptance of yourself in your own skin. I think that it's important for you to be able to say that you love yourself. It's a hard thing to accept oneself, however let me stress the importance of doing so.
Lately, I've been in this emotional and mental black hole of emotion. I haven't been feeling..well good about myself. It's also been making me realize the importance of loving yourself whenever your down.
First things first, you've got to treat yourself well. That means taking the time out of the day to read a few pages out of a book, to drink tea, or to simply catch a break. It's something that I myself have been struggling with. But get this through your thick head-it's important to take a break. So plan for a few minutes of downtime, because those few minutes can be crucial.
Actually make time for friends. I've been a horrible friend to pretty much all of my friends. Honestly, I have been so wrapped up with what's going on with my chaotic life that hanging out with my friends have become the least bit of priorities. It's nothing personal to my friends, but it's something that I have to work on. I need to focus more on being a friend, and less on my chaotic, hectic life.
Just remember one thing. Loving yourself is the key for ultimate happiness. Forgive yourself when you make mistakes. Treat yourself to a cookie or something to make you smile. Be happy, and if you feel like you're alone talk to a friend. Pet a dog. It's important to tell yourself that you're worth a million, because you are. 

Shake It Off..

Ever have those people in your life that just make you feel completely awful about yourself? You know the type of people who sa that they aren't judging you, but man they are judging you. They think that they are the best kind of person on the planet. And whatever you have that they don't agree with, they automatically tell you that what you're doing is wrong.

Well who died and made them the ruler of the world?
I have this friend who whenever I talk to her, she makes me feel completely awful about myself and my decisions. Whether it's not being on Dean's List or not having a bae, she always  has to rub salt in my wounds. She thinks that her opinions are the best, and to be quite honest, she's just really annoying.
Want to know what I learned?

There are some people that you simply need to flip off. Excuse my language, but that's true. There are haters around in this world, and they come in all ways, shapes, and sizes. When you encounter them, you do one thing-shake it off. 

This would be a good time to blast Taylor Swift's Shake it Off, my friends. 

The bottom line? 

If someone is telling you how to live your life, then they need to go where the sun don't shine. It's rude, and unnecessary. You do you, cause that is all that matters. I don't believe that there is a person out there that is better or worse than another. I believe that we are all works in progress, and everyday go through getting better. This doesn't happen when someone is constantly telling you what you're doing isn't up to their standards. Chances are, they are just insecure. 

That's all. 

The Birds Can Do It, The Bees Can Do It-Let's Fall In Love.

I recently saw this awesome post from Kate from Kate the (Almost) Great  about her answering some questions from this New York Times article. I thought that it was a brilliant idea for a blog post, so here's some of my answers to those questions. 


Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Can it be more than one? I guess it would be Audrey Hepburn, who is my favorite person. Other than being one of the most beautiful people in the world, she also is beautiful on the inside. Did you know that she had a pet deer? Also, I would want to have Lauren Conrad, Lana Del Rey and Taylor Momsen because I think that they all are great. 
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
I last sung to myself yesterday. 
For what in your life are you the most grateful?
I am most grateful to my closest friends, particularly to the ones who allow me to drive crazy. I am most grateful to the friends who I am comfortable with crying in front of. Those are the friends who know how to really make me feel better whenever I'm down, and impossible to deal with at times. I sometimes take them for granted, and I hope that they know that I really enjoy having them around. 
What is your most terrible memory?
The day my grandfather died. I knew that he would any day now, and the fact that it did actually happen and it was real that I wouldn't see him alive again. I was always close to my grandfather, and the day he died was one of the worst of my life. 
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
Probably getting my position as Opinions Editor at the school paper. It's such a great opportunity and honor, and I'm so grateful for it. 

I Wanna Get Better

Last week, I wrote a post entitled 'The Importance of Taking Time For Yourself' in which I talked about my issues with my mental health and having to take a step back. I first want to take a moment and say thank you to a few people who have emailed and supported me, including my good friends Bethany and Kari.
I've decided to once again post about it for two reasons. The first is that I want to be able to talk about it, and have people look up to me as being a strong individual. If someone is suffering due to depression or other mental health issues, I want them to know that they are not alone. Even though I know first hand that it sure as hell doesn't feel like that. The second is that writing for me is some sort of therapy. My blog is my account of my life, and sometimes writing a post is always helpful. I previously stated that I have slowly evolved from sharing every detail about my life on my blog, but at the same time, I feel like I could benefit from doing so. I don't know if this will become a regular part of my blog, but if I feel like I want to write about something, I will write about it.
Since writing that first post, I still haven't felt normal. Crying has become a sense of normal for me, and I constantly have been feeling miserable. It's affected my friendships, because I would lean on my friends, especially my good friends who I trust more than anyone. I am lucky to have such good friends, but they are not my therapists. I am in the process of getting a therapist, but sometimes there are things that people can't do to make you better.
I've also been furthering on cutting down on my weekly articles. As an editor for my school's paper, I have to write 2 articles for my own section. I also am taking an intense writing class, where I have to write another article weekly. And of course, there's this little ol' blog where I write every day in pretty much. Although scheduling posts is helpful, I still am writing a lot. 
Cutting down on my responsibilities, as well as dropping one of my classes was a step in the right direction, but I often feel like I am a failure for doing so. I've put a crazy amount of pressure on myself to become a better. However, I have given myself crazy high expectations, and that's not good. I need to realize that I am in fact enough, no matter what my GPA is. I need to learn that my best is in fact enough. I have to learn to take things on a step by step basis, and not worry so much about what something that happens next year.
I wanna get better. I don't want to be depressed, and I want to be happy. I'm taking steps towards happiness, and I know that it will be a while. I am a human who is a work in progress. I don't hold the answers to everything, in fact I hold the answers to next to nothing. I do know one thing. I know that the road to being better relies on me, and only me alone. I'm not sure how long it will take for me to reach the destination, but I know that I am a strong person who can handle anything. 

My Tiffany's.

In the movie 'Breakfast at Tiffany's', Audrey says that there is no place like Tiffany's because that's the place to go to whenever you have the mean reds.  Nothing bad happens at Tiffany's.

A bracelet that I had purchased a while back from Dava.

My Tiffany's is a bit different than Audrey's. It's a little small business called Dava. If you're ever in the New Haven area, you should really check it out. Dava sells a lot of some of my favorite things-chocolate, rings, other jewelry besides rings and other small goods. Whenever I am upset I go to Dava and purchase something whether it's a new bracelet, ring and with a side of chocolate. My blues will go away in an instant. Or at least I have a shiny things to make me smile.
It may not be Tiffany's but the jewelry is even more pretty and unique. I've gotten my favorite necklace from there, in addition to a ton of my favorite rings. Their quality is amazing, and the people who work there are easy to work with. They are so happy to help you find exactly what you want, and you leave with a smile a mile wide.
That's my Tiffany's.