Wednesday, April 30, 2014

"On Wednesdays We Wear Pink."

Today's Wednesday, and it's the tenth anniversary of the hit movie Mean Girls. Which has also inspired this awesome blog entry. (Read here!) The movie has aspired many quotes, a day of the week where we wear pink, and the famous line you go glen coco. The famous movie has a bunch of famous quotes. I've compiled a list of my favorites. That's so fetch. Each of these quotes can be applied to almost every aspect in your life.
When a creepy guy hits on you:

When talking about sex:

When your the third wheel:

To someone you hate:

To get over hump day blues:

When you're going through a breakup:

When you're in a bad mood:

When something was awesome: 

Happy moment: 

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Blurred Lines

There's something about relationships that are left to be undefined. Friends, boyfriends, and people in between. In one instance, you're with someone who you really like, who makes you happy, and they seem to like you in the way that you want them to like you. In the next, you're just a buddy only you're a bit more polished then the friends.
Ladies and gentleman, that's what we call the friend zone. And, it sucks.
I've been always too scared to make a move on guys that I'm interested in because I'm just afraid of being rejected. However, that's worse because then you are just leaving this gray area instead of being in the black 'girlfriend' zone, and the white 'friend' zone. I wrote a guy a letter once, just because the words I like you just couldn't come out. Of course, what happened afterwards is a different story.
I'm in that in between moment and it sucks because I want to be with someone who makes me happy. Nobody likes to be rejected, and nobody likes to be friend zoned. Sometimes, I think love and taking risks is a part of life. You have to rip off the bandaid, and it's going to sting like a bitch. But, then it's better than having a Snoopy bandaid hanging off of your leg for the rest of your life. (Yes, I have Snoopy bandaids)
Being rejected is something that we all have to face. Outside of love, we get rejected by schools, jobs that we think that we are perfect for, and even people who we once thought that were awesome now toss us aside like we mean nothing to them. Rejection is everywhere in this world, even though it hurts and even though we wish that it didn't exist.
As much as we wish that it doesn't exist, there's the whole concept of everything happening for a reason. After the pain, and after the endless amounts of wondering why this happened to you, we realize that there's some higher reasoning for this. We love, we get hurt, and then we move onto bigger and better things. Whether we are the ones getting the rejection, or doing it ourselves there's a reasoning that is beyond our understanding. The best thing that we can do is try to shake off all of our fears and try to do something about what we want. So, go ask that person out, talk to the pretty girl or boy, and just go for what's holding you back. If it's not going to turn out okay, then it's absolutely not the end of the world.

Monday, April 28, 2014

"Belle of the Ball."

Prom season is fast amongst us, and I can't help but be reminded of my prom. It was, can you believe two years ago, and I can't believe how fast time goes. I kinda wish that I took more pictures, and like many of my peers, I kind of wish that I had the chance to go another one. However, here's a look back at my high school prom.
My dress was purple, because duh, purple's my favorite color. I got a really good deal on the dress, because it was originally over $300 dollars, however it was only $99. I loved this dress, because when I was wearing it I felt like I was wearing a dress from Titanic. #sorrynotsorry
I also went with my best friend, Griffin. He was actually sick that day, so it was cool because he still showed up. Here's my corsage. He even texted me the week before and asked what kind of flowers I want. We're actually still really close today for some unforshaken reason. I'm glad that we went as friends, because in some ways it took the pressure off. We even awkwardly slow danced, which was awkward because he's about ten inches taller than me. I hope that he's not sick when he goes to his prom this year! 
(my corsage)
I also got to see some of my friends before I went off to prom. It was really exciting, however without a doubt my personal favorite moment of my prom was Gabriel coming to see me. Gabriel was complaining the entire time about mowing the lawn, so he took his dad's keys, and came to see me. Gabriel was also late, which is very typical Gabriel behavior. To this day, I will never let him live that down. 
(Gabriel and I; This picture is also located in his room!)
What was your prom like?

PS: Check out my new blog The Tinder Project, here.

Sunday, April 27, 2014

On Friday, a tragedy occurred in my area. Maren Sanchez, a teen that went to a high school in my area was stabbed, and many of her peers believe that it was because she turned someone down to be her prom date.
When I heard this, I was sick to my stomach. How could someone simply stab someone simply because they said no? Were they that upset, because just because someone rejected you doesn't mean that you have the right to stab them. It makes me sick to my stomach to hear this, and my heart goes out to Maren's family and friends. Until this happened, I didn't know who she was, or anything. But, now that I've heard about her, I know that she didn't deserve to die this way. My heart goes out to all of her classmates, who now have to cope with grief, and loss.
Rest in peace, Maren. I hope prom up in heaven is awesome, and your dress is purple and beautiful. 

Saturday, April 26, 2014

I Never Thought I'd...

*This was a lovely idea from the lovely Hannah  and Sam!
I honestly never imagine my life being the way that it is now. But, then again, who has? Sam did this lovely post a few days back, and I wanted to do my own spin on it. So, here's my 'I never thought I'd..."

  • I never thought that I'd be almost twenty and still not have my license. I always planned to be like Mary Kate and Ashley and got a car for my 16th birthday. Let me tell you, that didn't happen. I'm just learning how to drive, and I plan to go for my license this upcoming summer. Hopefully. 
  • I never thought that I would be majoring in liberal studies. In high school, I didn't even know what liberal arts were, so needless to say I didn't know much about my current major. Now, I love my major, even though when I was in high school I wish that I knew that I wanted to be a journalist so I could have actually majored in that. 
  • I never thought that I would be single at my age. I always assumed that I would have met Mr. Right by now, or at least have a boyfriend. I never thought that I would be single, but I really never thought that I would love being single. I don't regret any of my decisions in the past, because I know that in some ways when it's meant to be it will happen for me. Although sometimes, I wonder if it ever will happen. (Hmm, a future post, maybe?)
  • I never thought that I would go to a school that I commute to. I never gave much thought to college, and I'm surprised that I ended up where I did. Sometimes, I feel like I'm missing out on the college experience, but I do realize that it's what you make of it. And, I love college!
What are some things that you never thought you would? Comment below!

Friday, April 25, 2014

Fictional Friday-The Claddaugh

The Claddaugh
Tiny little silver hands hold a silver heart that's as cold as you.
It's crown points away from you, signaling that I am looking for love.
If it points at you, it means I'm yours.
You only had one job.

You were supposed to make the crown point to your heart.
But you didn't, so the crown points towards me.
It reminds me that you and I were never in sync.
Friendship means the crown, but my heart wanted you.
We were the crown, and not the heart.

I should have saw the signs,
I should have took friends, as just friends.
You didn't string me along; you were being honest.
Only I was too deaf to listen.
You're not going to find me and tell me I'm the one.
Stupid romantic comedies have clouded my hearing.

The crown points towards me,
Reminding me that I'm looking for love.
With someone who will turn the crown to face him,
reminding me that I am in fact royality.

Thursday, April 24, 2014

#TBT-00s Hits.

Hey guys, this blog entry is picture less, because I still don't know how to add pictures on my computer. If anyone blogs from a mac, please let me know! 

We all remember these songs, as if they were yesterday. They were playing on our iPod nanos, and they were on repeat. These are the songs that rocked my preteen years, on my windows computer. Here's a few of my favorites from the new millennium.

Best of Both Worlds by Hannah Montana;Before there was Miley Cyrus tweaking on the VMAs, there was Hannah Montana. And she rocked the worlds of pretty much every person in my middle school back in 2006. She was on the pink iPod nanos of many people, and the television of everything. It's safe to say I was a big Hannah fan through out my middle school days. It's kinda strange to see Miley in her wrecking ball era, but I'll always have a soft spot in my heart for Hannah. Even though they were the same person.
Thanks for the Memories by Fall Out Boy; This was my jam the summer before 8th grade. I learned about this song I think through a commercial, and when I first got my iPod I literally listened to that song on repeat. I still actually have this song on my current iTunes, and am still a huge Fall Out Boy fan. (My Songs Know What You Did In the Dark is actually now playing on my iTunes as I type this.) However, I will always remember that first song that made me fall in love with the band. No pun intended.
Hollaback Girl by Gwen Stefani; Thanks to Gwen Stefani, I know how to spell the word banana. End of the story.
Lala Land by Demi Lovato; Demi was my idol even back in my freshman year of high school. Lala land and Get Back were always playing on my iPod. However, back then I didn't have the respect for her as an artist as I do now.
Lollipop by Lil Wayne; This song reminds me of my middle school days when I actually thought rap was cool. Now looking back, I know what this song actually means. Needless to say, it's not actually about candy. However, I'll be listening to this song as I'm going to my eighth grade dance. But now, I don't listen to that music. Like at all.

What's your favorite song from the 00s?

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

My Momma Says

One of the things that my mother is the person that I least want to talk about relationships with. I rarely do, unless I have to tell her that I'm going somewhere,and who I am going with.
The reason why, isn't because my mother is some awful person. It's because she sometimes has the mantra of just not caring and seeing into the future. Maybe it's because she's divorced. But, whenever I talk about my friends' fear in relationships she says "Why are they looking into so deep into the future? They are young, therefore they should be focusing on what they want to do in the here and now." She's very blunt, and although I love my mom, it's sometimes really hard to talk to her. Therefore, she's not the best person to ask for advice.
However, I got to thinking about that statement. That is in some ways, logical. We do only live once. Sometimes though, we can't brush ourselves off as easily as we want to think that we can't. Sometimes, the effects of relationships mean more to us than the actual relationship did. When we finally get over the relationships, or even the ones we secretly loved for years, we don't want that to happen to us ever again. So, we shut ourselves off, and then we question that person who does genuinely thinks we're cute.
My mom went through a harsh divorce, thus making her judgement clouded about relationships. When I'm upset about something in the love department, she is the last one that I want to talk to because she's always saying "you'll get over it." In my adolescent psychology book, however, there's something about how to handle a breakup with a teenager. And, that's not it.
But, there's something to be said of the things that my mother says. Since she's been around 33 years longer than I have, she does kind of sort of maybe knows what she's talking about. So, I do take my mother's advice with a grain of salt. The one thing, perhaps is the big thing is this lovely words of advice: this too shall pass. 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

So, I Joined the 21st Century..

Last week, I had a giant paper to print. So, being the procrastinator that I totally am not I decided to do it the morning that it was due. However, the blue screen of death came on my '08 laptop. Needless to say, everything was going a bit like Carrie Bradshaw when her computer went down.
However, after a chance moment, my computer decided to turn itself on and work again. But, something didn't feel right, so I called tech support. They told me, after congratulating me for having the computer for as long as I did, that it was time to say goodbye to my dinosaur era technology. My hard drive blew, and my motherboard wasn't too far behind it. So, needless to say, I knew that it was time to let go.
A few hours later, after getting my most important documents off onto my flash drive, I began shopping for a brand new computer. Let me tell you, going from the days of Windows Vista, to what they have off now is very confusing. I wasn't even sure of what kind of computer that I wanted to get. However, since I had an iPhone, iPod, and most recently an iPad I kinda wanted to get a computer from apple.
So, I logged onto apple with my ironic. After looking around, I decided to settle for the MacBook Pro. With my education discount, I got a really decent deal on my computer. So, I went to my Apple store, and took the plunge.
When I first got it, the first thing that I noticed was how light the computer was. My former computer, which now resides in a box in the garage until I can figure out how to get rid of it, was maybe double the weight of my current one. The next was the improved battery life. Compared to my PC, my mac can go for days without a charge. I am excited about that, because I am so used to having to have a plug to do my computing. Now, I can go around my house, and even outside of it. I also noticed that it was really fast. Going from a computer from the 00's, obviously things are going to be different. However, I didn't think it was going to be this fast. I don't have to wait for my computer to load. I can just go from there.
Overall, I love my new computer. I am pleased to say that this is my first blog entry that is written on my mac and it's great. I am still getting used to everything on it, but overall Apple you were great and I am so glad, that my computer crashed. 

Monday, April 21, 2014

#inspirationmovement-think +

One of the reasons why I started this #inspirationmovement is because I think that it's easier to focus on the bad things about ourselves instead of the good. I want this feature to inspire those who are having a bad day, and remember that it's not a bad life, just a bad day. The goal of my linkup is to encourage people into thinking that their awesome no matter what hats that they wear. 
It's Monday. Time to wake up and go back to school, work, or whatever it is that you do on Mondays. Mondays are often the most stressful days of the week for me. However, I have to remember that there are positive things about me. Here's what I like about me.

  • I am a good writer. No matter how many people tell me I'm not, I think that I am. One thing that I always will love to do is write. And wanna know the crazy thing? I'm going to make a career out of it! Some feel that when they are getting posts ripped apart that makes them feel like a bad writer, and I couldn't disagree more! I think that by learning from your mistakes means that you're able to grow to a better writer. I do a lot of writing, for my classes, for the blog, and for the paper, and I really don't care. I absolutely love it, and I love that I can express myself in a way that's creative and outside the box!
  • I am creative. I really love being creative because that means I can look at things differently. Other than writing, I draw, play the flute, sing, do ceramics, and make jewelry. I think that it's a good quality because then creative people use more of their brain than non creative peeps. (Is this a thing, cause my elementary school music teacher said if I'm wrong let's blame her.) One of the best things about this is that I have healthy ways of expressing myself than harming myself or doing things to bring me down.
(Some friends!)
  • I'd hate to toot my own horn....but I'm a really good friend. I try to treat my friends like the friend that I want to have. When their sad, I try to listen. When they need a pencil, I'll give them one. I try to follow the golden rule, because if I care about my friends my main goal in life is to be happy. My friends are the people who I lean on, and I try to treat them as awesome as possible. 
(my superawesome dog)
  • I love dogs. My dog's my best friend. End of story. 
  • I am smart. Even though sometimes, I feel like I am not I am. I read a ton of books, and almost made it into an honor's college. I think that's pretty good. I also think that grades are something that measures our intelligence in a negative manner, similar to the SAT. Just cause someone got a C doesn't mean that they aren't smart awesome people. End of story.
  • I work hard. Whether it's at school, or at my library I try my best to work my hardest on everything that I do. And that's a fact.
What are the positive things that you like about you? Comment below, or join the linkup with non other than my girl Emma from The World According to Emma! We love you to join! And then please feel free to make some new and super awesome bloggy friends and comment! They are the best because comments make my day. 

Thursday, April 17, 2014

You Don't Know About Me, But I Bet You Want To! #tmi

Okay, so before I begin I want to give a shout out to two extremely awesome bloggers that gave me the idea for this post. The first is my bloggy friend Hannah, from Words and Palindromes! The second is Catie from Books, Beauty, and Bars! Both of their posts are off the chain, so I suggest that you check it out! Thanks guys for this awesome blog idea, and you both are awesome bloggers!

1. What are you wearing?
Well, I am wearing clothing. Lauren Conrad black mixed media top, Lauren Conrad jeggings, and rainboats, because it's raining when I am writing this, and my rain boats are awesome. Needless to say, I am showing these off, despite the fact that I really hate rain. Also LC by Lauren Conrad is my favorite clothing line ever.

2. Do you have any tattoos?
Nope. Thinking about one...but nope.  

3. Piercings?
I only have one in each other...but do earcuffs count? I got one of those! 

4. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
Honestly, it depends on the morning. Sometimes, I don't have class til nine, so I often don't get anything ready cause hello, I like to sleep in. On those days, it takes about 15-20 minutes. On the days I have to rush it takes about ten days. 
5. How tall are you?

I'm five 3-4. I've gotten so many different claims about my height though, so my permit says 5 three, so let's go with that!
6. Zodiac sign?
Cancer, ftw. 

7. Favorite quote?
"Like everyone, and trust no one"-Lauren Conrad

8. OTP (One true pairing)?
Luke and Lorelei from Gilmore Girls. 
10. What are your fears?

11.  A place to visit?
I would like to visit Italy, but I love going to the library...even though I work there. 

12. Favorite Color?
Purple. It was my prom dress! 

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Terrible Twos

Once upon a time, in a high school hallway, there were a cast of characters, all with pseydums. There was Charlotte York, my best friend at the time, who was optimisic about love. The way that the show protrays Charlotte. There was Mr. Big, who was the crush that I had that always left me thinking. Then there was countless others, who I can't remember. All were there on Notations. At that time, I claimed that I knew everything, despite the fact that I knew nothing. Let's face it every 16 year old thinks that they know everything about everything on the face on the earth. But, let's be real here. I am almost done with my teenage years and I can barely tell you what I want for dinner tonight.
Two years ago, I started this blog in search for something. For happiness, for inner peace, for who knows what. Ever since then, I am so pleased to watch my little flower bloom. My writing has improved. I've grown to have a bigger part of the blogger community, and have over ten thousand views. I've made some blogging friends, both real and virtual. But most of all, I am able to have a space of my own to write. I have features, and only hope that they get bigger and better as time goes on. I hope that you all stick with me, because you all are apart of this. 
So, I thank all of you for reading. Thank you to my fellow bloggers. Thank you to my Facebook fans, because I know that you enjoy getting notifications. Thank you to my friends who get emails pretty much daily, and not want to kill me. Thank you for actually reading this, which makes me so happy. This is something that I am so exited to say, and I am so grateful for each and every one of you. Thank you guys!
Happy birthday blog! Here's to two more years of insightful blog entries. Or more. I hope to write more. I kind of wish that I could give the blog a presen, but instead I'll buy myself one. Sounds good? I think so. 
Happy birthday to Finding My Voice! Let's make two not so terrible!
Read my first entry ever here!

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Give A Round of Appalause to the Single Gal-Society and the Single Girl

(From my Instagram)
There's a bunch of different kind of women. There's the marrying kind who wears white aprons, lives behind a white picked fence, and drives mini vans. There's the single kind, who drives an expensive car, who wears designer clothing, and wouldn't think twice before purchasing those pair of five hundred dollar shoes. Then, there's the kind of women who have partners, instead of husbands. Instead of putting a label on it, they live together with no pressure. Then there's the kind of girl that maybe, just maybe isn't exactly fit to even be in a relationship.
I'm single, and I wear my claddaugh ring's crown facing to me. I wear that ring like a badge of honor, because I'm actually proud to be single. Yup, you all heard that one right. 
Sometimes, I do wish that I had a boyfriend. They are nice to have, but sometimes you just have to remember to feed them, walk them, and make sure that they have fresh air. Boyfriends are good for that classy romance-y stuff, you know making you feel like a million bucks every time that he calls you beautiful. However, as much as you may want it, make sure that you want it for all of the right reasons. I would rather die than settle for someone that doesn't exactly make me happy. I don't want to be in a relationship, just to say "hey I'm in a relationship." Because I can buy my own dinner. And diamonds. And ice cream. I want to be in a relationship because that person that I'm in a relationship with makes me smile and jump up and down and makes me happy.
Many people around me are in relationships. Some are those cutesy couples that you can't help but  be like 'aww, they are so cute.' It's that kinda thing. Then there are others who you're wondering what's going on there. Part of a relationship is being able to commit and grow together. When that doesn't happen, then often they are drifting apart into separate ways. Some relationships don't value communication that much, which leads to bigger problems in the long run.
I think that there's a reason why I'm not in a relationship. But, don't get me wrong. I'm in that boat where I want someone to tell me that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to them, just like the rest of ya. Sometimes, I think that it would be cool to have a boyfriend. However, the time is way off for me to call someone my baby. I feel like if you meet someone, you should be able to have no reservations. Or they grow on you, and then you tell them how you feel. Either way, the point is very simple. Right now, sometimes I feel like I wouldn't be a great girlfriend. I even shudder at the word girlfriend. Is that bad? Therefore, before my crown points away from me, there's a lot of things I have to work on. Like the relationship with me.
However, one day I'll meet Prince Charming. He might come in with a white car, or on a white horse. It may be sooner or later than I may want it to be. However, there's too much out there for me to do for me to wait for him to find my shoe.

Monday, April 14, 2014

"Don't Be Fooled By the Rocks That I Got"

One of my favorite things in the world is jewelry. I make it, I buy way too much of it, and I look at tons  of posts about it on Instagram, Pinterest and Tumblr. (I'm on that #armcandy flow, yo.) However, there's some of it that's a cut above the rest. Here's some of the pieces that I can't help but rock.

Hamza/Evil Eye; For those of you who don't know what a hamza or an evil eye is, right not you're going to wish that you did. The Hamza, and the evil eye are pieces that are made that ward away evil spirits. I prefer the hamza, because the Evil Eye basically scares me. I wear my Hamza necklace pretty much, but I also have a few bracelets.

Opal; Dear future husband, if you ever need an idea for an engagement ring, get me an Opal. I love how opals are mysterious and cool looking. Sometimes, I wish that I was born in October just so I can wear the stone without shame. I also am a fan of blue opal which is basically the same thing, just blue.

Alex and Ani; Everyone and their mama seem to have these bracelets. But, the cool thing is that no matter how many you have stacked on your arm, it's still something that's tailored to your individual taste. I also like it that each bracelet has a separate meaning for you. Check out another Alex and Ani post here! I have 13 currently, however only 10 of them are pictured.

Pearls are classy. That is all.
Until recently, I've never taken my Pandora bracelet off. I've gotten mine for my 13th birthday, and I've kept it on  ever since. Each of the charms is something that is meaningful, because they were all holiday and birthday gifts. Unfortunately, the clasp broke earlier on, and I have yet to replace it.
Claddaugh Ring

Even though I'm not Irish, I love them. I currently have five (the latest pictured above.) The Claddaugh has three parts-hands, a heart, and a crown. It's used to display Marital status, so if the crown is facing towards me as seen here, then it means that I'm single, and if it's the other way around it means that my heart belongs to someone. The hands symbolize friendship, the heart symbolize love, and the crown symbolizes loyalty. More information about the ring can be found here!
Rings In General;
I just love wearing multiple rings. They tend to change over time, but my favorite way to wear one is on my thumb.
Return to Tiffany™ heart tag in silver with enamel finish on a bracelet, medium.
(Dream Tiffany Bracelet; $375)

(What I own from Kohls; $250 regular price)
Heart Toggle Bracelets:
I only recently got into it. I wanted a Tiffany one, but they are super expensive. I have the Kohl's one and I'm in love with it. It's small and it doesn't get in the way when I'm at school. It's really well made, and it came really fast. I like these bracelets because they are very cute. I also have a smaller one from Juicy, which has a ton of really cute ones for less than $50.

What's your favorite kind of jewelry?

Sunday, April 13, 2014

"Simply the Best"-Sunday Social

Hey guys, so I'm linking up with Ashley today for a Sunday linkup!
1. What was your best birthday?
My best birthday is a tie between my 19th birthday and my 16th birthday. My 19th because I got to spend it with my friends, and I got my first smartphone, which is naturally exciting. My 16th because of the cookie cake (see below)
19th Birthday Cake
16th Birthday cake.
2. What was your best vacation?
My best vacation is when I went to New York to Little Italy. Being Italian, I thought that this was exciting because for that moment that was the closest thing that I would get to Italy. Plus, the food was the bomb.
3. What is the best date you've ever been on? coffee dates with Gabriel count? Honestly, they are the best person to get coffee with because we have the best conversations ever. 
Our first coffee date since he came home! (12/2013)
4. What is the best movie(quality) you've seen?
The best movie that I've ever seen has to be a cross between American Hustle, and Titanic. Both movies are just so good that I couldn't simply just pick one. 
5. What is the best TV show ending of all time?
Sex and the City. Hands down. 

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Saturday, April 12, 2014

"Leave the Boxes Unchecked."

Recently, one of my closest friends told me that they were genderqueer. When they told me this, I've decided to do some research on it, to gain more knowledge about for my friend. They have even decided to use their pronouns they/them/theirs, which is sort of confusing for me to get used to. I am trying, and I hope that they know that. However, by doing some research on this, I felt this was a step closer to gaining understanding about what does it mean to register as genderqueer.
Genderqueer is when you don't identify with as a man, and you don't identify as a woman either. People who are in fact genderqueer often use the pronouns they, them, theirs, move between genders, often have blurred lines between sexual orientation, and basically are gender neutral. People who are in fact gender queer do realize and recognize that their gender doesn't fit the social norms of a specific gender. Like if someone doesn't feel like they are a woman, but don't fit the norms of being a man, then they are considered to be gender queer.
This term is relatively new. People who are gender queer can be straight, gay or bisexual. Some are even pansexual, which is when you like someone based on the person, not the gender that they are in. They can even be considered to be transgender, or bigender which means that they are both man and woman.
After doing some research about the subject, I feel like I am more informed about my friend and their decision. Before, I just knew the term by how they explained it. However, doing some research on its own really opened my eyes up to the term that my friend presented. I think that doing research helps, because that way you can really understand things, whether its a different brand of people, or a new term. That way, ignorance by not knowing is ignored, and we can become a more informed society.

Friday, April 11, 2014

Out With Friendship; In With Competition

                It disgusts me that some women don’t understand the meaning of being a good friend. In the hit movie Mean Girls, we see the evolution of clichés, when women are at each other’s throats and talking behind each other’s backs. Although that movie was a comedy, you got to admit that there is some truth to it. Since when do your friends become your greatest enemy, and since when do you have to wear your poker face around people that you deem to be your friends?
                Whatever happened to having each others’ backs like the women in Sex and the City? Women who care about each other, not plotting to take behind their backs?
                Society has slowly enforced the mean girl culture, which is something that really disgusts me. I’m not enforcing the hippy concept of “peace and love”, but I do think that we should at least have respect for each other’s wants, needs, and desires. True friendship is something that is give and take, not going behind the backs of your friends to conquer.
                When it comes right down to it, some do not grasp this concept. It’s upsetting, because I believe that in order to have a friend, you have to be one. To be a friend, you have to care about them, listen to their problems when they have them, and be their support system by being their biggest cheerleader when they are happy, and their therapist when they are upset.
                It makes me angry to even think that the concept of female friendship doesn’t exist anymore. It’s perhaps extinct in our culture. We have to outdo each other, in order to be at the top. The concepts of having respect for others is being thrown out the window, because all we care about is making everyone else look bad. We bake or eat cookies with friends. Now, we just crumble them like cookies and leave their crumbs scattered around. Meanwhile, the one who crushed the cookies was the one that was standing tall and proud like Superman. But instead of a cap, they wear high heels.
                Whether they are out for a guy or a coveted position, it’s safe to call what Cady Haron deems as ‘girl world’ an outright jungle. It’s survival of the fittest. However, the actual fighting differs. In a jungle, the fighting is physical and bloody. None the less, the animals know how to cut you to the point where it hurts. In ‘Girl World’, it may not be physical, but it still packs a major blow. Instead of the fighting happening right in front of you, it has to be behind closed doors. The fighting is sneaky, and has to be executed right in order to be effective.

                I wonder why we have to make everything into a full blown war with each other? We’re not in the high school hallways anymore, we’re in a college campus. But still, the drama still exists, and best friends are still having it out with each other on texting and social networking sites. Although it’s toned down a bit, I still can’t help but wonder will friendship ever triumph the desire to be the better one. Or will friends turn into colleagues, and business contacts. 

Thursday, April 10, 2014

#TBT "Let's Hear it"

The following is a poem I've written about some of my friends! All work and photographs are my own. 

Let’s sit on a silver metal table,
Where pop music plays from the speakers above us.
Cary Rae Jepson asks some boy to call her maybe,
One Direction says that you don’t know you’re beautiful.
We’re eating Fro Yo from pink and yellow cups.
In between bites,
We share advice about boys, and life.
I noticed that her accent is slowly becoming American.
He picks me up in his tic-tac green mini van.
His hair is purple, and he’s wearing funky sunglasses.
Nirvana’s blasting from the radio,
He’s slowly growing to like grunge.
We pick up his little sister,
Who is slowly becoming like my own.
Where does this road to nowhere lead to?
It leads to Starbucks,
“NQ I need my coffee”, he said.
It leads to parks,
“NQ, I want to go somewhere pretty”, he said, his eyes begging like a puppy.
And it leads to long scenic walks in random places.
“NQ, let’s go for a walk”, he says jumping up and down.
Yes, he had too much coffee.
On those walks,
We talk about life, the future, and just about everything else.
When he ditches the green backpack,
 And escapes the crowded hallways of high school,
He’s a different person.
The adventurous person in front of me is
Totally different then the quiet person who always has his nose in a book.
Whether it was exploring the unknown,
Discovering the river,
Or when he puts me his back, as if I weighed as much as that backpack.
During that time,
The summer between my senior year of high school,
And my freshman year in college
You would listen to me,
Even when I think no one else was.
“Go team!” we’d cheer from the sidelines.
We’d talk about that hot guy in my math class,
And the guy in your EDU class.
Bobcats win!
Peca scored the winning goal!
Boomer the Bobcat dances all around to the music that the pep band plays,
Blue and gold pride,
Bobcats won yet again!
Let’s hear it for the good times,
When I would eat fro yo, with Alessia whose now back in Italy.
When I would drive around aimlessly with Gabriel, whose now in Saint Paul.
When I went to QU with Elisia whose now at QU.
When I would walk the Canal Trail with Griffin, who doesn’t know where he’s going .

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Have A Happy Breakup

                One of the inevitable things about life is that one of these days, you’re going to go through a breakup. Whether it’s that person that you’ve been casually dating for a while, or the person that you thought would be your soul mate, breakups come occasionally. And let’s be perfectly honest, they aren’t exactly the best experience in the world.  Whether it came out of the blue, they cheated on you, or you guys realized that you’ve grown apart, it’s not exactly the greatest thing to deal with. However, they don’t have to be as bad as they seem. Here are some tips for having a happy breakup. And yes for all of you skeptics out there that is in fact possible.
               Change your playlist. When you’re breaking up with someone, the first thing you want to do is blast songs like Whitney Houston’s ‘I Will Always Love You.’ However, listening to songs like that will only make you more sad. So why would you bother listening to upsetting music? Switch the sappy ballads for songs like Pharell’s ‘Happy’. Soon, a happy mood will follow.
                Grieve. Breaking up with someone is naturally upsetting. You shouldn’t deny yourself a chance to grieve, because you need to feel whatever you’re feeling to move on. Get some Ben and Jerry’s, watch Titanic or the Notebook, and just let whatever you’re emotion out. Cliché? Absolutely, but sometimes you got to grieve the past to embrace the future.
                Use your pain for good, not evil. Sometimes, after grieving the sad emotions still remain. Instead of using the anger for evil, use it for good. Doing something constructive not only promotes good karma, it also makes you feel good.  Do some crafting, charity work, or even write down your feelings in a private journal. A big thing that you can do is going to get exercise. Whether it’s hitting the gym, going for a run or bike ride, or even taking the dog out for a walk, exercising is helpful because it give you positive endorphins that make you feel good. Plus, looking better than you did when you with your ex? Another bonus!
                Delete yourself from your ex. That means no Facebook/Twitter stalking, as tempting as it may seem. Going on their Facebook only makes you angry or sad, because you miss them and want to be with them. Deleting yourself from them helps you say the things that you’re feeling in the moment, which down the line you may regret. If you can’t delete yourself from your ex, then try to remain as civil as possible. You don’t want to be known as someone’s crazy ex!
               Hang out with your girls. Your friends were your biggest cheerleaders when you got together, right? Now, your friends are your biggest support system as you guys are breaking up. Spending some time with your friends is a key thing when going through a breakup, because like all of the cliché things about having a best friend, they will always be there for you when you’re down. Going out for coffee, just to talk? Perfect. Going to the mall for a retail therapy shopping spree? Awesome! And when you’re ready for someone new, a night out with friends would be the best way for that.
                No matter how you look at it, breakups suck. To find someone to help us stand, sometimes we have to fall a few times. But the cool thing is, that no matter how hard the break up is eventually you’ll be okay.