One of the inevitable things about life is that one of these days, you’re going to go through a breakup. Whether it’s that person that you’ve been casually dating for a while, or the person that you thought would be your soul mate, breakups come occasionally. And let’s be perfectly honest, they aren’t exactly the best experience in the world. Whether it came out of the blue, they cheated on you, or you guys realized that you’ve grown apart, it’s not exactly the greatest thing to deal with. However, they don’t have to be as bad as they seem. Here are some tips for having a happy breakup. And yes for all of you skeptics out there that is in fact possible.
Change your playlist. When you’re breaking up with someone, the first thing you want to do is blast songs like Whitney Houston’s ‘I Will Always Love You.’ However, listening to songs like that will only make you more sad. So why would you bother listening to upsetting music? Switch the sappy ballads for songs like Pharell’s ‘Happy’. Soon, a happy mood will follow.
Grieve. Breaking up with someone is naturally upsetting. You shouldn’t deny yourself a chance to grieve, because you need to feel whatever you’re feeling to move on. Get some Ben and Jerry’s, watch Titanic or the Notebook, and just let whatever you’re emotion out. Cliché? Absolutely, but sometimes you got to grieve the past to embrace the future.
Use your pain for good, not evil. Sometimes, after grieving the sad emotions still remain. Instead of using the anger for evil, use it for good. Doing something constructive not only promotes good karma, it also makes you feel good. Do some crafting, charity work, or even write down your feelings in a private journal. A big thing that you can do is going to get exercise. Whether it’s hitting the gym, going for a run or bike ride, or even taking the dog out for a walk, exercising is helpful because it give you positive endorphins that make you feel good. Plus, looking better than you did when you with your ex? Another bonus!
Delete yourself from your ex. That means no Facebook/Twitter stalking, as tempting as it may seem. Going on their Facebook only makes you angry or sad, because you miss them and want to be with them. Deleting yourself from them helps you say the things that you’re feeling in the moment, which down the line you may regret. If you can’t delete yourself from your ex, then try to remain as civil as possible. You don’t want to be known as someone’s crazy ex!
Hang out with your girls. Your friends were your biggest cheerleaders when you got together, right? Now, your friends are your biggest support system as you guys are breaking up. Spending some time with your friends is a key thing when going through a breakup, because like all of the cliché things about having a best friend, they will always be there for you when you’re down. Going out for coffee, just to talk? Perfect. Going to the mall for a retail therapy shopping spree? Awesome! And when you’re ready for someone new, a night out with friends would be the best way for that.
No matter how you look at it, breakups suck. To find someone to help us stand, sometimes we have to fall a few times. But the cool thing is, that no matter how hard the break up is eventually you’ll be okay.