My Momma Says

One of the things that my mother is the person that I least want to talk about relationships with. I rarely do, unless I have to tell her that I'm going somewhere,and who I am going with.
The reason why, isn't because my mother is some awful person. It's because she sometimes has the mantra of just not caring and seeing into the future. Maybe it's because she's divorced. But, whenever I talk about my friends' fear in relationships she says "Why are they looking into so deep into the future? They are young, therefore they should be focusing on what they want to do in the here and now." She's very blunt, and although I love my mom, it's sometimes really hard to talk to her. Therefore, she's not the best person to ask for advice.
However, I got to thinking about that statement. That is in some ways, logical. We do only live once. Sometimes though, we can't brush ourselves off as easily as we want to think that we can't. Sometimes, the effects of relationships mean more to us than the actual relationship did. When we finally get over the relationships, or even the ones we secretly loved for years, we don't want that to happen to us ever again. So, we shut ourselves off, and then we question that person who does genuinely thinks we're cute.
My mom went through a harsh divorce, thus making her judgement clouded about relationships. When I'm upset about something in the love department, she is the last one that I want to talk to because she's always saying "you'll get over it." In my adolescent psychology book, however, there's something about how to handle a breakup with a teenager. And, that's not it.
But, there's something to be said of the things that my mother says. Since she's been around 33 years longer than I have, she does kind of sort of maybe knows what she's talking about. So, I do take my mother's advice with a grain of salt. The one thing, perhaps is the big thing is this lovely words of advice: this too shall pass. 

Follow Your Heart; Girl Between The Lines

This week's post was to write about the best advice that you have ever received. It was kind of a hard one to pick out because I've gotten so much great advice over the years. Finally, it clicked. So, after much thought, the best advice that I have ever received was to follow your heart.

I think this is the best advice that I've ever received because I feel like the heart knows more than you do. It knows what you really want to are trying to hide from the rest of the world. Kind of like your Ego if you're a Freudian. Our brain takes care of the logic end of decision making. But, the heart takes care of the whole how do you feel about it?

This lovely piece of wisdom can apply when you're thinking about relationships. Let's say that you have two people that you really like and want to be with. The whole follow your heart thing can have an advantage here because then you kind of already know who you want to be with. If you can't choose between the two then maybe neither are right. One can say that the subconscious has a lot to do with that too. Freud, you will never escape me. 

But..it doesn't have to do with relationships either. This was a big part of my decision of figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. When I was in my psychology classes, something didn't feel right. At first, I used to be excited about going to psychology. Over time, my enthusiasm faded. However, I was always looking forward to my journalism class. I was fully engrossed in the subject. I wanted to write, because that's what felt right for me to do. Needless to say, I no longer plan on entering the mental health field. 

Sometimes, your heart knows what's truly right for you, even when you don't. So, in conclusion, the best advice that I have ever gotten was to follow your heart.