Society and the Single Girl; Thing I Notice and Tend to Dislike About the Love Patterns of Girls.

Disclaimer: The following blog is about my opinion of relationships, and a rant that I have developed based on what I've seen nowadays. If this offends you, this means one of two things. One, you're a person who gets offended easily, or these things could pertain to you. Then that means that you perhaps need to reevaluate your lifestyle. Thank you and good night. I also want to say that not all people are like this, myself included. I'm just honestly wondering how some people can.

I hate it when girls lower themselves or change themselves for a guy or a boyfriend. I mean isn't the point of relationships to make someone like you for you? It's not like you have to change to be liked. If you did, then that would be no fun. It would be like getting to know this cloned verison of him in a dress. I mean come on. It's not cute when someone agrees with everything that you say just for the sole purpose of them liking you more. To find a connection that you crave, shouldn't you be honest? Just saying. Telling someone that you like to watch or play football when in reality you hate it isn't exactly the coolest thing ever. Plus, there's that whole respect factor. How can someone you love respect you when you're throwing yourself at them? Chances are they probably won't.
I feel like there's no chase anymore. If the cheese isn't hard to get, then the person won't cherise it. I believe that you should treat your significant other like they are a diamond, because they are just that precious to you. If you feel like they are like a CZ...then yeah that's a problem.
I also hate it when girls say that they are in love with their significant other, or when they say they are going to be married one day. Before you all want to have me beheaded, let me explain my reasoning. I don't mean this for a couple that's been going out for months or years. I mean this for the people that are really young and or immature, or have been going out for a couple of weeks. I believe that the love and the person has to kind of mature for it to work. Otherwise, it's just crappy infatuation in which you think that you love someone when you really just want to be in love.
I hate it when girls get mad when their significant other doesn't text them back right away. Okay for starters, phones aren't meant to be glued to their sides. I'm not a huge fan of my cellular device. The only time that I really like to use it is when I talk to my friends who are in the different countries. I tend to ignore people who text me, I'm not even going to lie to you people on that one. When I'm writing, I'm in the  zone. When I'm at school, I'm learning. I'm addicted to my phone, like the rest of society is. However, I don't (unless it's important for me to get in contact with you) yell at people or question their reasoning for not answering their cell phones. We all have lives that are beyond the screen. Girls, please remember that. Don't spam them, because that's just freaking annoying. Then, they will tend not to be attracted to you so much.
Finally, it bothers me when girls completely shelter themselves off with their boyfriend. For example, all they do is go to their house and hang out with them and not going out? Not cool honey. Sometimes, hanging out at the house is fine. However, sometimes you guys need a life that's not sheltered away from each other, such as sitting at home doing God knows what..well I try to make this blog as PG as possible, so...The problem with this is that by doing this you basically become sheltered which is unhealthy. Do something else other than hang out at his house. Like you know, get fresh air?
Seriously, girlfriends nowadays bug me. It's not all about your boyfriend because he usually finds that to be unattractive that your constantly up his ass. Get a job, a hobby, get some friends. He has a life, and so can you. That way, your relationship can be I don't know, healthy!

Not For Me

A lot of my friends are in relationships. Some of them tend to have more drama then others. If you want my opinion, and screw that I'm going to give you my opinion anyway because I believe it to be important. I hate drama. I hate crying and making myself upset because it seems completely stupid and pointless. Who likes crying and feeling sad? Honestly. Isn't the point of a relationship to be HAPPY? Hello, happy isn't crying with a tub of ice cream because you're fighting with someone. Happy isn't shutting yourself off from society until he calls or texts.
I feel like some of the girls out there have unrealistic expectations on what's expected of a man that their with.  They watch the Notebook, and they think that relationships are like that. Well, they aren't. First of all, Noah and Allie's relationship is one scripted by a writer. Your relationship is written by God. Two different writers. Hollywood paints such an illusion of relationships that I often find myself wondering when will my prince arrive? (okay once, but still) Due to this, we expect the man to do this in real life.
Crazy girlfriends have become the rage on Twitter,  YouTube and Facebook. I DO follow her because she's so entertaining. But I couldn't notice the unrealistic expectations that she has for her boyfriend. For example, texting multiple times (okay fine, I've done this before), calling a girl a whore for liking her boyfriend's status, and countless other crazy things. These things are more and more becoming into real life.
First of all, if this applies to you, maybe you should CHILL for a second.
Second of all, it leaves me wondering if I'm able to be in relationship. If a guy expects a girlfriend to do those things, then clearly it's acceptable. However, it's not me. I'm not in a relationship, but I wouldn't mind one. I don't plan on solely focusing on that, and making my relationship be my sole thing I have going for me. (I mean come on. Girl who falls in love and gets married and spits out children? Boring life story. Now girl who has a career, a family, a great romance, and not to mention an awesome car....that's what I'm talking about.) I have school. Grad school. A job to find. I have many books to read, a difference to make and people to help. I can't spend my time being unhappy because someone didn't call me. I think life's too short to be unhappy, and therefore why should I spend my life being sad.
 If and when some guy is dumb enough to go out with me, I can guarantee that I won't do that unless he does something completely stupid or I have emotional reason to. I'm not trying to offend anyone who does fall into this category, I just don't fall into it. Is it bad? Maybe. But I want to be in a relationship that's happy and relaxed. Not one that makes me sad. Sad macs should just stay computers.

Healthy or Unhealthy?

For a while now, I've been thinking about relationships. I've been thinking many things-from what makes a relationship worth the time that is given, to why does one want to be in a relationship. I've also given thought to what makes a relationship healthy vs what makes a relationship unhealthy. 

Often, people of my peers have gotton into a relationship for the first time. Often, you don't know what to expect, so you rely on your peers and others to guide you. First of all, let me say this for future reference- a relationship consists of you and that other person. Not your friends, whether on real life or on Facebook. Just you and them.

But what is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship consists of:

• Trust. I think a relationship of any kind needs some kind of trust. If they say that they are going to hang out with their friends somewhere, then yes, they probably are going to hang out with their friends somewhere. If you don't trust someone, and you are blowing up their phone thousands of times, because you apparently need to know where they are, chances are you shouldn't be with them. And if you have concerns, talk to them about it. They will listen. And if they don't, then screw them.  
• Space. You have friends. He has friends. You have a life. He has a life. Don't spend your entire existence glued to the arm of someone. You have friends and school to worry about. Plus, ever hear the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder?
• If you have an issue, then you talk about it. Then you move on. Relationships consist of communication. It's the key, don't you know? 
• If they don't answer you back, chances are they are busy, or something. If he doesn't answer your text in about five minutes, then chill. He might be unable to talk. Or be asleep, which in that case, who answers their phone when they are sleeping? 

Now, I bet you're asking what an unhealthy relationship consists of:

• Constant arguing or drama. 
• Being unhappy all of the time. Relationships are supposed to be happy. If you're not for any reason, please do yourself a favor and break up. He or She is not the only person on the planet. 
• Constantly texting, and then if they don't respond, keep on texting and texting or leaving a bunch of messages. If they don't respond and haven't done anything questionable, then you shouldn't be worried. Take a chill pill. 
• Keeping one from hanging out with friends. Their life isn't solely centered on you. Friends are awesome, and sometimes, one needs to see them.

Relationships can be a good thing. But sometimes, they can be unhealthy. Making yourself miserable, over a guy isn't the best thing to do, and won't make either of you happy.