Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Society and the Single Girl-Being Friends With An Ex.

Sometimes, things don't work out between you and your bae. It's a fact of life really. But once the drama of being part of a wrecking ball relationship subsides, what in the world are you going to do with your ex? Are you going to hate them forever? Or, are you going to *gasp* become friends?
Well, it depends on the situation.
 In 'Sex and the City', we see Carrie and Big attempt at being friends. She does in fact raise that million dollar question of whether or not it can be done. Although she and Mr. Big didn't exactly do well with it, she does raise a valid question. Can you be friends with an ex? 
But first things first, ask yourself this-are you over them. If the answer is yes, than proceed. If not, then you should probably get over them first.
Sometimes you just can't because you've realized that your ex has been taken over by aliens and came back from that a complete and total jerk. Or, they did something completely awful such as cheat on you or kill your cat. At that point, it's okay to not want to talk to them again because they are simply not worth talking to.
However, what if it was something like you two were falling out of love? Sometimes, time changes people and their standards. At that point, then being friends is something that is worth considering because neither of you did anything wrong. Plus, sometimes you're better off as friends than you were a couple anyways.
But, there should be a warning label. Being friends with an ex can be is awkward.
Like really awkward.
Especially if you've moved on faster than they did.
Approaching them is awkward because you haven't talked to them in a while. You don't know what to say. Or you have a lot that happened since the two of you talked last. Sometimes, it's what stops you to even bother approaching them in the first place. 
I personally think that it depends on the situation. I think that being friends with an ex is something that is worth considering if they weren't a jerk to you, and were a good boyfriend/girlfriend/partner. It's not exactly the most fun at first, but it's something that I think that you all can consider trying out. Considering I'm one of those 'I really don't like to hate people' kind of people, I would be all for it. You really do benefit from it, because even though you're not dating anymore you'll have that person in your life. After all, since you've dated them before there must be a reason as to why you liked them in the first place.
There's no scientific equation when it comes to dealing with your ex. Being friends is obiviously something that's a bit different than being in a relationship with them. The best advice? Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't.


  1. My ex of 3-years and I still talk. We're pretty close, but he hasn't exactly...moved on (for lack of a better word) himself. It's been 2-years so I'm wondering if he's just a close friend who will always be there.

    - Harlynn

  2. Im not really friends with any of my exes. I am facebook friends with one ex, but we dated in 9th grade so it was just so long ago I feel like that doesn't really count!