The following post is something that has been on my mind lately, and something that I've been thinking about.
How many of you have heard the term soulmate? You know the two perfect piece of the whole, that other half of your heart that exists somewhere in the world, and our life's destination, other than finding decent work and stuff, is to find it? And once you do, it's the best thing ever. You feel like jumping on the roof tops, and yelling 'I've found the one!'
But, where do you find the one?
From what I've gathered about this soulmate business, is that when you find the one that you're meant to be with, it's like a lightbulb goes right off in your head. You know and there's no questions about it. It's like yup that's my soulmate. But, could you be wrong about the whole soulmate business? Like, could you think that someone's your soulmate, and then be like 'okay, they are not my soulmate, sorry guys.'
I sometimes think that my soulmate is located in the witness protection program. But then again, its probably cause I met a lot of frogs instead of princes. I also sometimes think that I've found the one who Elton John sings about, you know when 'all you ever need was the one/when freedom feels when wild horses run'. If love is like the songs, then it's supposed to be great, and once you found the one the story ends.
I sometimes think its hard for me to like love someone unconditionally. I sometimes think that its hard for me to be loved unconditionally. I mean I have faults, and I am a moody little bitch. I have times when I doubt whether or not someone actually cares about me and then I doubt whether or not I'm right. I have trust issues, eat too much chocolate, and can't save a dime to save my life. I guess this whole soulmate business is when someone loves you despite the facts that you have these faults. Maybe this soulmate even loves your faults.
I've been thinking a lot about this. Sometimes, I do wish that my soulmate would come out of thin air and be like 'hey I am your soulmate'. Yes, I am impatient. I just doubts, trust issues, and I worry too much. (mostly for no reason.) However, I don't want the movies where you find the one, and it just ends. I want the after the movie things, where you don't get to see everything.
Maybe I've watched way too much of He's Just Not That Into You, which is probably likely because I've watched it twice while being snowed in. I just sometimes wonder, and maybe even doubt whether or not this soulmate business is legit. I sometimes wonder if he could be reading my blog, or perhaps even right in front of me.
So soulmate, whereever the hell that you are, can you promise me that you'll love me when I am no longer young and beautiful.
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I'm not a believer in soulmates, myself. I doubt any guy out there would quite be considered "perfect" for me...but I choose to love my husband, even on days when I think he's crazy, and he chooses to love me. So maybe I believe more in the "choice to love"...although I have no idea how one decides who to choose!
ReplyDeleteThat's a really good perspective of things. I don't know either, maybe I guess it's a feeling or something? lol. but thanks for the comment!
DeleteHi Natalie! I'm your newest follower. I found your blog when you commented on mine and when I popped over, I liked what I saw, so here I am. I am married to someone I believe is my soul mate. But it wasn't instantaneous. I fall more and more in love with my husband with every day that passes. He's out there and I know that's frustrating (believe me, I was in my mid 30s when I met my husband and we married on our 5-year anniversary). But, when it's time and it's right, it happens. Hang in there and be that girl you would want as a BFF. Don't wait for him. He'll find you.
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Hi Kelly! Thank you so much for following and the compliment, and welcome to my blog! I love that advice! Thank you so much and I'm looking foreward to being a part of your blog.
DeleteFound you on the comment promise hop. I don't believe in one soulmate for each person. Honestly, to do that minimizes any true feelings you've have for past relationships that didn't work out. If there's only one person for each of us, does that mean you didn't truly love those people at the time that you were in the relationship with them? Also, once you decide to settle down and get married, it will never turn off feelings of attraction you may have for other people. What one of the other commenters said is absolutely true - it's about choice. To me, choosing to be in a relationship and make it work every single day is so much more romantic than some weird "fate" thing. My husband and I choose to love each other and make our marriage work and last. So many people think of the wedding day as the height of your love for each other, but I'm so much more in love with him now 7 years and 1 1/2 kids (I'm pregnant with #2) later! Be patient, keep making friends and being your own independent self, and love will follow. :)
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I love that advice! thank you so much!
DeleteI like Rachel and Brenda's take on it - about choosing to love. The other hesitation I have about soulmates it encourages the idea that love should be instant - that we should "just know." That does happen for some people, but my husband and I were just friends for a few years. But we're "mates" in the sense that he gets and appreciates all the stuff that's important to me (and vice versa) and we have the same outlook on a lot of issues (kids, travel, family, work, food, etc.).
ReplyDeletei gotcha. that sounds like William and Kate. :) but i totally agree.
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