But Above All This, I Wish You Luck.

There are many stages of a romantic relationship. There's that happy stage where you're getting on every person that you know's nerves, because you're 'so into each other.' This is otherwise known as the honeymoon period. Then there's the period of adjustment, which follows this because you're learning how to live with this person. This is often the time when you decide whether or not you like that person as much as you said that you did, and enough to actually work on the faults that you have neglected to see. Then, there's the downwards spiral where you begin to hate each other and things become really terrible to live in. Then there's the wrecking ball stage, where the deed is done, and you're crying your heart out with your homeboys Ben and Jerry.
The funny thing about that stage? It eventually fades away. Your breakup haircuts will grow out, and you'll slowly begin to not feel like a knife has went through your heart. This is around the time when whatever your partner did becomes old news, and then you move on step by step day by day. That's the time when you finally realize that there are bad sides to good people. Someone who you thought was the Prince turned out to be the dragon that you slayed.
Then you could do two things-be extremely bitter or decide that you're over it. In my opinion the best way to be over someone is to be able to wish them joy when they caused you pain. This my friends, is taking the high road. Being able to congratulate someone on their accomplishments sincerely instead of plotting their demise is something that I think that you should reach because you yourself know that your ex is not a bad person. Sure, they must have did a shitty thing. But that's okay.
I finally can say honestly that I wish every one of my ex boyfriends or kind of boyfriends the best of luck in life. I hope that they find or have found some sort of happiness in whatever they do. If I saw them in a hallway, I wouldn't run but would rather stop and say hello to them.
As Whitney sings 'I hope life treats you kind, and I hope that you have all that you dreamed of.' I believe that is both the saddest and most true love song in my opinion. The best thing to do, and sometimes the hardest depending on the situation, is to wish them nothing but the best. 

Society and the Single Girl-Being Friends With An Ex.

Sometimes, things don't work out between you and your bae. It's a fact of life really. But once the drama of being part of a wrecking ball relationship subsides, what in the world are you going to do with your ex? Are you going to hate them forever? Or, are you going to *gasp* become friends?
Well, it depends on the situation.
 In 'Sex and the City', we see Carrie and Big attempt at being friends. She does in fact raise that million dollar question of whether or not it can be done. Although she and Mr. Big didn't exactly do well with it, she does raise a valid question. Can you be friends with an ex? 
But first things first, ask yourself this-are you over them. If the answer is yes, than proceed. If not, then you should probably get over them first.
Sometimes you just can't because you've realized that your ex has been taken over by aliens and came back from that a complete and total jerk. Or, they did something completely awful such as cheat on you or kill your cat. At that point, it's okay to not want to talk to them again because they are simply not worth talking to.
However, what if it was something like you two were falling out of love? Sometimes, time changes people and their standards. At that point, then being friends is something that is worth considering because neither of you did anything wrong. Plus, sometimes you're better off as friends than you were a couple anyways.
But, there should be a warning label. Being friends with an ex can be is awkward.
Like really awkward.
Especially if you've moved on faster than they did.
Approaching them is awkward because you haven't talked to them in a while. You don't know what to say. Or you have a lot that happened since the two of you talked last. Sometimes, it's what stops you to even bother approaching them in the first place. 
I personally think that it depends on the situation. I think that being friends with an ex is something that is worth considering if they weren't a jerk to you, and were a good boyfriend/girlfriend/partner. It's not exactly the most fun at first, but it's something that I think that you all can consider trying out. Considering I'm one of those 'I really don't like to hate people' kind of people, I would be all for it. You really do benefit from it, because even though you're not dating anymore you'll have that person in your life. After all, since you've dated them before there must be a reason as to why you liked them in the first place.
There's no scientific equation when it comes to dealing with your ex. Being friends is obiviously something that's a bit different than being in a relationship with them. The best advice? Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't.

Thou Shalt....(A Blogger's Commandments to Dealing With Breakups)

As a blogger, I have a lot of things to say. I tell you all about what I've been up to lately, and you listen and comment back. I tell you what I buy when I'm at the drug store, and you all ask me about what I like about the products that I've chosen. Bloggers are mini celebrities, because let's just face it we're obsessed with each other and our blogs. Every morning, like clockwork I check my GFC feed, and I check on my favorite bloggers to see what new and exciting things that they've posted.
One of the things that comes along as a side dish of being a blogger is that you're going to have people that you may or may not want to see. So, you've got to be careful about what ends up on your little corner on the internet, because it could haunt you.
Reading through people's blogs, I can't help but notice that relationships are a huge part of that person's blog. Whether it's lack of relationship, a marriage, or someone's boyfriend, relationships are a big deal on the internet. And we can't get enough of sharing our love stories online.
But, what happens when sometimes the love goes from sour to sweet? As a blogger, you have the power to basically make all of your readers think that he's the scum of the earth. But, with that being said, there's somethings that you probably should do/not do when you're a blogger with a broken heart.
Do;

• Take a break from blogging if you're feeling too emotional to blog. That way, you won't post something that you'll later regret.
• Try to keep any posts about your ex as classy as possible. Whenever you do decide to blog about it, if you do, then be sure to keep it as drama-free as possible. If you want to say "I wanted to let you all know that I am no longer with such-and-such, and I am okay"(even when you're not) go for it. 
• Write a post about being happy, because thinking about happy things will without a doubt make you happy. 

Don't;

• Use your blog to trash your ex. #notclassy.
• Don't trash your ex. Even if they deserve to be trashed, for whatever they did.
• Post meloncholy posts. Yes, you're sad but save it for Facebook or Twitter. (That's where I see most of the drama nowadays.)
• Use your blog as your diary. Go to Staples and buy a notebook, because trust me you're not going to want to see some of the stuff you'd post if you didn't. (Neither would your future employers)

Bloggers, I wanna know. What are your tips and tricks in dealing with a blogger breakup?

*In case you were wondering (I know that you all were), I have not experienced any sort of heart break/breakups as of late.

Have A Happy Breakup

                One of the inevitable things about life is that one of these days, you’re going to go through a breakup. Whether it’s that person that you’ve been casually dating for a while, or the person that you thought would be your soul mate, breakups come occasionally. And let’s be perfectly honest, they aren’t exactly the best experience in the world.  Whether it came out of the blue, they cheated on you, or you guys realized that you’ve grown apart, it’s not exactly the greatest thing to deal with. However, they don’t have to be as bad as they seem. Here are some tips for having a happy breakup. And yes for all of you skeptics out there that is in fact possible.

               Change your playlist. When you’re breaking up with someone, the first thing you want to do is blast songs like Whitney Houston’s ‘I Will Always Love You.’ However, listening to songs like that will only make you more sad. So why would you bother listening to upsetting music? Switch the sappy ballads for songs like Pharell’s ‘Happy’. Soon, a happy mood will follow.

                Grieve. Breaking up with someone is naturally upsetting. You shouldn’t deny yourself a chance to grieve, because you need to feel whatever you’re feeling to move on. Get some Ben and Jerry’s, watch Titanic or the Notebook, and just let whatever you’re emotion out. Cliché? Absolutely, but sometimes you got to grieve the past to embrace the future.

                Use your pain for good, not evil. Sometimes, after grieving the sad emotions still remain. Instead of using the anger for evil, use it for good. Doing something constructive not only promotes good karma, it also makes you feel good.  Do some crafting, charity work, or even write down your feelings in a private journal. A big thing that you can do is going to get exercise. Whether it’s hitting the gym, going for a run or bike ride, or even taking the dog out for a walk, exercising is helpful because it give you positive endorphins that make you feel good. Plus, looking better than you did when you with your ex? Another bonus!

                Delete yourself from your ex. That means no Facebook/Twitter stalking, as tempting as it may seem. Going on their Facebook only makes you angry or sad, because you miss them and want to be with them. Deleting yourself from them helps you say the things that you’re feeling in the moment, which down the line you may regret. If you can’t delete yourself from your ex, then try to remain as civil as possible. You don’t want to be known as someone’s crazy ex!

               Hang out with your girls. Your friends were your biggest cheerleaders when you got together, right? Now, your friends are your biggest support system as you guys are breaking up. Spending some time with your friends is a key thing when going through a breakup, because like all of the cliché things about having a best friend, they will always be there for you when you’re down. Going out for coffee, just to talk? Perfect. Going to the mall for a retail therapy shopping spree? Awesome! And when you’re ready for someone new, a night out with friends would be the best way for that.

                No matter how you look at it, breakups suck. To find someone to help us stand, sometimes we have to fall a few times. But the cool thing is, that no matter how hard the break up is eventually you’ll be okay.