Friday, October 31, 2014

Favorite Parts of Halloween!

Happy Halloween readers! Halloween is here, and I hope that you all have a safe and happy Halloween. I'm going to be home, just because I have cellutitus and am finally getting over that. However, there's some parts about Halloween that are just my favorite and I will not be passing up on.
The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown! 
Candy Corn 
Chocolate Pumpkins 
Pumpkin Flavored Things
Do you have a favorite part about Halloween? Let me know what yours are in the comments below!

Thursday, October 30, 2014


True life, I am addicted to Instagram. Like seriously addicted to it. I can not go a day without posting something, because well let's face it, it's a fun way to spend the time. I even bought apps to enhance my photo-making experience. Let's take a look about how Instagram has impacted my day to day life.
"Let's take pictures of food before we eat it!"Before I got an Instagram, I would have thought that taking pictures of my plate was silly. It still is, but I do it anyways. And I get somewhat good amount of likes on my lattes, and other baked goods. It's obnoxious, yet I really don't care.
Hot chocolate from a  while ago.
I baked cookies once and it was lovely. 

"But first, selfie." Ah, yes selfies. Who doesn't take them? It has kind of taken over, has it not? Whenever you get a new hairstyle, or feel pretty, what do you do? Take a selfie! Or, is your friend back in town? You take a selfie! Selfies are something that you do alone, or with a friend. However, it's not going away for a long time.
Gabriel and I! 

I sometimes take selfies by myself.
Griffin and I at the beach! 
Elisia and I at a sporting event.

"Nature photos to make me look artistic!"Who hasn't taken a walk around a pretty neighborhood, or gone to the beach without taking a picture of something? I haven't. #sorrynotsorry
On a photoshoot with Verenized back in May.

"#throwbackthursday" Remember Prom? Or when you had blond hair? Or that time that you graduated high school, that was like three years ago. Sometimes, you take awesome pictures and they just need to be bought to the surface..on Thursdays nonetheless.
Griffin and I were the best at prom. 

Oh yeah, I also graduated high school. 

I also had a graduation party. This is Gabriel and Griffin playing with my point and shoot camera.
"Showing off something that I bought because I'm obnoxious and I want to show stuff off" Whenever I buy something new, whether it's a book or a bracelet, it ends up on Instagram. Cause, I want to show off the pretty things that I shouldn't be buying because I should actually save my paycheck for things like getting a car. However, I saw this pretty bracelet, so therefore I shall buy it and share with you all so you can be jealous of the things that I buy.
CDs are better than MP3 because then you can post them on Insta.
Juicy was once an outlet before going to Kohls.
Can't live with Instagram, can't live with out it. However, if you have one you should follow me so therefore you can see those you do it for the gram?

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Relationships, On Social Media

Relationships are an important aspect to life. After all, I've spent my entire blogging career complaining about my lack of one. I've explored concepts, both familiar and foreign to me. Breakups, my complaints about people that are actually in relationships and of course wondering if I will die alone are a few things that have crossed my mind over the past four years. However, I have not discussed relationships and social media.
Social media is the place where you go to tell people about your life. Some people however use it a bit too far. People tend to vent about their lives, or brag about it. How many people have seen the whole engagement ring/baby season? Well, I am happy for the parties that are involved but at the same time, I've become like okay, please shut up and go away. I have yet to figure out what I'm doing over winter break. 
I mean I'm happy for those people and all, but I really don't like to see it on my social media news feeds.
I think that social media and relationships are like recipes. You have to do things right, or else things turn into a big mess. So, posting a cute picture every now and then is a good thing. However, by basically make everything that you post about your boyfriend, I don't care how much that you love him, it's downright annoying. You should probably consider getting a life, a pet, or reading a book. That way you won't feel so compelled to write everything about your boyfriend.
This post is turning into a rant, so let me just say this. Social media has affected us in a lot of ways. Many of us feel weird if we're not on Facebook to see what's going on with that person we were sorta best friends with our freshman years in high school. Sorry, but you don't need to check that.
I believe that when done right, posting about your relationship is okay. However, when you over do it then I'm not going to want to talk to you.
That's all. 

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Things I Love Tuesday: Snoopy Necklaces and Illness

We all know that I am a huge fan of Snoopy. I have everything under the sun for Snoopy related, whether it's Snoopy mugs, Snoopy stationary, Snoopy stuffed animals, and Snoopy mugs. However, I surprisingly do not own Snoopy jewelry.
However, that changed yesterday.
But first let's start with a little story. Last Friday, I was diagnosed with cellutitius, which is an infection in my cells. The infection was caused by a bug bite, however the bug is unknown. After being in the worst pain I have ever been in, I was told to be on bed rest for four days. After that, I  have been on limited activity, and will be missing a lot of my classes through out the next week (Being sick in college isn't fun, I suggest that you all don't do it unless you are like dying.) Needless to say, I have had a rough few days.
My mom goes to a laundramat near a Kohl's. So, I decided to go and look around. I love looking at jewelry, and so I decided to treat myself to a Lauren Conrad bracelet, since well she's my favorite person there. However, that soon changed.
In the clearance rack was this Snoopy necklace (pictured above) It was hidden in the way back, almost like it was meant for only me to find. I was so excited to find it because, well Snoopy jewelry is simply amazing for all of the Snoopy fans out there. It was a great price, and needless to say, I had to get it.  So, I did.
And I'm so happy that I did.
Needless to say, I needed a little treat and had a little run in with fate. Hopefully, I'll be able to return to some degrees of normallness. In the mean time, I'll be listening to Lana and watching New Girl. I suddenly have a newfound appreciation for school and work. It sure beats having an infection on your leg.

Monday, October 27, 2014

The Best Advice.

We always ask for advice when it comes to relationships. Does he like me? What should I do while we're fighting? Why isn't he texting me back? We often are so unsure of ourselves, or what to do about the situation that we often second-guess our own instincts when it comes to relationships. 
When I go through the occasional melodrama with a relationship or a guy, there's one piece of advice that I constantly play back to myself. And now, I'm going to share it with you all, because I am either wanting you all to be just like me, or I actually want you to be educated and know my secret of life. Ready? I know you all are. 
Honestly the best advice that I can give to anyone out there trying to figure out romance and their way around the word is to simply give yourself the same advice that you would give a friend. So many times, I would tell a friend to do something that I myself wouldn't have the nerve to do. 
For example, let's say I have a friend named Audrey. Audrey and her boo-thang (yes I said that, deal with it) have been having constant arguments with each other about various things. If this was me, I would sit in a corner and let this happen to me. However, since this is Audrey a person that is not me and I genuinely care about, I would say something like speak up and do something about it. 
I think that we often put ourselves down, and underestimate the amount of love that we deserve. So people that actually read this, whoever you are, let me tell you this. 
You deserve the very best. You deserve someone who makes you smile, someone that makes you feel like you are floating,  someone that feels like they don't deserve you, and someone that will move mountains to make you happy. If you're not feeling that, than you're doing it wrong. To me, it's plain and simple. 
At the end of the day, once you realize that you're in fact worthy of happiness, then you're ten times likely to have a relationship that will leave you extremely excited to be in it. I think that the best advice that I can give you all is to put yourself on a pedestal, be a queen on a thrown, and to just know what you deserve.

Friday, October 24, 2014

The Movies Lied.

I really have been on a movie kick as of late. (Thank my Netflix for this problem.) My favorite kind of movies, judge me, are chick flicks. Give me something sad, or something with a happy ending, and I'm all good. However, despite the fact that these movies are supposed to mimic real life, it's no secret that they don't.
Movies have happy endings, big romantic gestures, and people professing their love to each other in the biggest and best way possible. After a bloody breakup, the guy comes back and says that he can't live without her. Or my personal favorite, taking her up on stage and performing some dance number to one of the best songs ever. (Patrick Swayze, you did it right.) The problem..none of this is real. Well let me rephrase that. I don't think that it's real.
Movies have been shaping our way of thinking about relationships since our days of watching Cinderella, and Sleeping Beauty. Fairy tales and romantic comedies are similar in many ways. For example, in Sleeping Beauty (that was my favorite, other than Belle), she needed to awake by true love's kiss. Well, what if the prince never came? Did she eventually wake up, with a pink or blue dress? (I liked the pink one, by the way) Did she get a job? Or did she never wake up?
Thanks to Disney and Nora Ephron, my views on love have been changed. I've come to expect a complete profession of love when someone loves me. I'm half expecting to find someone whose like Augustus Waters, who tells me that 'I am in love with you' more times in a day than he does 'hello.' When we're comparing notes from our real life to our lives as a movie, our real lives often come up short. Whether it's something that was said to us, or something that happened, our lives aren't made to sell. And that's okay.
Katy Perry said it best, 'when it's not like the movies, than it's not how it should be.' Homegirl said it right, because the best romances are the ones that come when you're not looking. What your bae tells you may not be written by Nicholas Sparks, but that's okay because sometimes what he says can be a bit too cliche. (No offense.) What your bae tells you is sincere, and it's real. To me that is all that matters, but that's just me.
So, let's leave the acting to the stage. Let's leave the romance and the big romantic proclamations at the movie theaters next to the super buttery popcorn, and let's leave the drama for the Oscars. Let's accept life at face value, something that is beautiful and wonderful and bittersweet at the same time. 

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

The Only Exception

Who here has seen the movie 'He's Just Not That Into You'? Okay, I've seen it more than once but its still an excellant movie. There's one part of the movie that talks about 'the exception.' This is when the guy does everything he possibly could wrong, but still manages to be into you and make you his. This is when the reason why he didn't call you was actually because he's not too good with keeping their phones near them. It doesn't have anything to do with you, or how much they love you it has to do with the way that they are.
But here's the main question. How do you know when your someone's exception? How do you know that you're not the annoying girl that texts them and they secretly want you to go away?
The obivious answer is that you don't.
However the real answer is that you actually do. Are you confused yet? Okay good, I'll clarify it for you because it's a lot easier than I'm making it seem.
When something's right for you, you just know. It's somewhat of a lightbulb phenomenon where it just clicks, and everything falls into place. Sounds like a bit of a cliche, but like most cliches they are annoyingly true. Sometimes, the person who is meant to be your soulmate won't call because of whatever reason. And that's okay because they do other really nice soulmate like things like ask you to marry them or something like that.
It's also about how well you know the person, as well. If you know that someone's not a slave to their phone, then you shouldn't sweat it when they don't answer it.
We live in a society where if we don't get an instant reply then we're wondering what we did wrong or they are idiots. We never realize that there are reasons as to why someone's not answering their texts. At the same time, we have to not make them feel guilty about needing a break from technology. If they don't want to talk, then they shouldn't have to. So, if someone's not going to call you it's not the end of the world.
The rules of dating in my opnion are so muddled and blurred that it is beyond insane. Nowadays, the woman asks the man out instead of the man asking the woman out. We've evolved so much since my grandparents' generation of going out dancing and the farthest you would go is second base. The women has respect for themselves, were a 'lady', and was never seen pining over a man. Sometiimes, I wish that we can go back to that versus our ways of waiting for someone to call.
The exception of the rule is a friend of a friend. You don't get names. They are so close yet so far. But, they happen. This leads to my question...what is the only exception?
So the only exception is your story. It's the love story how you meet your partner. It's the tears that you cry on your pillow, the moments of flying high when you're in love with someone, and that moment when yo just know that your partner is the one. Your story is yours, it's unique, quirky, and something that is better than anything that Nicholas Sparks has ever written. You just know, it makes you smile and laugh. 
Cliche? yes. True? Absolutely.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

A Little Note

Recently, someone told me that the field that I am going into (journalism) isn't the best choice because there's no jobs there, and I should have gone or something more practical like teaching or social work. Honestly, it bothered me because I am finally doing something that makes me happy and it's something that I have always wanted to do. No offense to those who do want to be those things, but they aren't for me.
I honestly can not tell you why I am choosing to be a writer. I know it comes naturally to me, such as right now when I am writing this post. I love writing, even though I am a work in progress and I have so much more to learn about my field. For me, it isn't that hard to sit down and write something that is thought provoking and interesting. I can do it and I love doing it. 
My biggest dream is to go to New York, to go to Columbia for grad school, and then work for a magazine. I want to be like Carrie Bradshaw because she is my idol. I want the name necklace, I want the Mac, I want the apartment, and I want to write with my heart and not my head. However, I can do without Mr. Big. Just because that's not healthy. 
I also aspire to to one day own my magazine, and write awesome artices for it. It's a big dream, but I just want to write. I don't care if I get paid next to nothing, it's something that I love to do. If you hate what you do, then you're doing it wrong in my opinion. Plain and simple. 
Honestly, what that person said to me hurt because I don't want to disappoint those who are close to me. However, I don't want to live to please others either. 
I want to be a journalist. Not a social worker. Not a teacher. Get  it through your thick skull because its happening. 

Monday, October 20, 2014

I Believe...

*This post was inspired by the Audrey Heburn quote below. It made me think about what I believed in)

I believe in second chances, even though half of the time many people don't deserve them.
I believe that tomorrow is always a better day.
I believe that you should be the one that writes your own rules, not society writing the rules for you.
I believe that you should put yourself first, because you'll never have to worry about you falling out of love with yourself.
I believe in treating yourself to cupcakes when you're sad.
I believe that diamonds are truly a girl's best friend.
I believe that happiness is something that differs from person to person.
I believe in listening to others opinion before doing what you want.
I believe that you shouldn't spring bad news onto someone before they have a cup of coffee.
I believe that you should follow your heart.
I believe that you're the bright lightbulb that can change tomorrow.
I believe that you should love yourself.
I believe that you should find love in someone else after you fall in love with yourself.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Society and the Single Girl: Can a Commuter Date a Resident?

Where I go to school the majority of the people commute. As for the people who actually do live on campus, many of them go home for the weekend. As a commuter, my experiences differ than my friend who live there. I don't have a meal plan so I don't have to eat the same things day in and day out, which without a doubt can be very boring and repetitive. I also don't have to eat at a certain time, which is very freeing because well who likes to be told that you have to eat something by a certain time, or else you're screwed and can't eat.
Obviously, I like being a commuter because it's cheaper, and it fits for my needs. Others commute then become residents and vice versa. Honestly, college is to each their own. But, can someone who commutes be in a relationship with someone who lives on campus?
I honestly think that they can. Many people don't agree with me. 
Being a commuter student and a resident student are completely different things. Being a resident student means that you're probably more involved on your campus and have a lot more freedom than someone who still lives at home. Can that be a reason not to date someone who lives on campus if they commute?
Well, yeah. Relationship are usually a case by case basis. I know someone who lives about an hour away from her boyfriend. She lives in a dorm, while he lives at home. So far, they make it work. However, I do know couples that were together and one would live on campus and one at home, and then spilt up. It depends on this little thing called fate. 
Personally, I wouldn't mind dating someone who lived on campus, whether it's my own or not. Relationships need space, and sometimes college relationships can be suffocating because since you're on the same campus and living together, you are constantly together. That's not healthy. Being in a relationship on separate campuses kind of gives you the push to give you space that you as a couple need.
What breaks up many relationships is the whole trust factor. But, if you don't have trust you have no relationship. So, I'll leave you with this little grain of thought. It doesn't matter if you're living down the street, across town, or even in the next state. I think that if you're into them, you should go for it. If you're a commuter, or a resident. Whether or not you live at school should not be a factor of you deciding the relationship is worth it or not. 
Should a commuter date a resident? What do you think? Let me know!

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

A Somewhat Different Path

For those of you who have stayed tune for my blog throughout the years, it is no secret that I have changed my major a bunch of times. I first switched to a psychology and english double major. Let me tell you what did not happen. Then, I went to just English which really didn't work because I wanted to focus more on writing. So then I took up Liberal Studies, which gave me the opportunity to have concentrations in English (creative writing) and journalism. Then, when interviewing a person for a story for my basics of journalism class she suggested meeting with her to discuss my future.
Upon meeting with her I had learned that if I had taken one to two classes then originally planned than I would be able to be a journalism major. By switching my major to journalism, I would have more chances of getting in my dream school-Columbia. However, I was still reluctent because I didn't want to change my major so late in the game. (Even though she said that I could still graduate on time)So, I consulted my friends about what they thought about what I should do. 
After consulting with several people, I have decided to switch. I am still currently feeling the aftermaths of the decision, such as realizing that I have to take one summer class this summer. But, other than that, I look foreward to taking more classes for something I really love. I'll still be minoring in creative writing, which is still good. 
So, I hope that this major lasts. (just kidding it would.) Have you ever switched your major? Telll me about it in the comments below.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

I Blame Carrie Bradshaw

I have a thing for initial jewelry. Something about having something made just for you makes me so excited because my necklace is unique. Personally, I blame Carrie Brashaw with her name 'Carrie' necklace which is extremely popular for all of you Sex and the City fans, myself included. I've always wanted a "Natalie" necklace, but since I didn't want to spend all of the money towards it, always was hesitant. I had always wanted an intial necklace, but the only one I liked was the Dogeared one, which was way out of my budget, and I could never find my intial at TJ Maxx.
However, when I saw this necklace at Fifth & Mae I knew that I had  to have it. It was small, dainty, and pretty. So, I took a plunge and bought it. And I'm so glad that I did.
Fifth and Mae, for those of you who don't know, is a site that sells high quality jewelry for low prices. I like the latter part, because I'm a broke college student. So, being the jewelry freak that I am I decided to treat myself and buy their initial necklace.
The necklace comes in gold, rosetone, and silver. I chose silver because I am a silver kind of gal. I got my order about a week after ordering, which was expected because intials tend to take a longer time to ship. 
I am so impressed with the quality of the necklace and blown away with how pretty is. When I unwrapped it I literally fell in love with it and put it on right away. And of course, I felt like Carrie Bradshaw. 
The bottom line? Fifth & Mae is great because its affordable and wonderful. I am definately coming back for a pair of cute earrings and the be brave bracelet. So, for all of you college gals looking for some shiny new baubles for less, give Fifth & Mae a try. 

Monday, October 13, 2014

"I Woke Up Like This" (Not A Fashion Blog Post)

I am not a fashion blogger by any means, but I am like your average college student. I have zero to no time between my jobs, schoolwork, and trying to stay sane and have somewhat of a social life. Therefore, I can't (and don't) have the time to spend constantly picking out well out together outfits. However, I still manage to put together reasonably well outfits on a daily basis in under ten minutes. Here's my tips on 'how to look more polished when in reality I just woke up like this.'
As a college student, it's so easy to throw on a pair of leggings and a comfy sweatshirt when going to class. However, we often leave out jeans as being an acceptable part of one's wardrobe. They are mostly comfortable, and inexpensive. Pairing jeans at least with a sweatshirt makes the outfit a tad bit more polished then sweatpants or leggings. I'm a huge fan of the jogging, which looks like jeans, but in reality they are soft and super comfortable on the inside.
Having a key shoe: 
I am a huge fan of leather boots for fall. Whenever I wear leggings, I often pair them with leather boots. Pairing them with a good shoe often makes the outfit feel more put together than simply wearing sneakers with your leggings. Often, my boots look really awesome and put together with the leggings.
In my opinion, jewelry is awesome. Wearing jewelry is something that gives a plain outfit a little extra 'oomph' when you're trying to get ready. Anything from a pair of simple stud earrings (pearl earrings are a classic) to a watch jewelry can really spice up an outfit.

What are your fashion tips and tricks? Let me know in the comments below!

Friday, October 10, 2014

Book Review-Best of Me

Hey readers! So, I'm trying something completely different, because why not expand my blogging comfort zone! Today I'm reviewing a book that I've read recently called the Best of Me by Nicholas Sparks! And yes, it's coming out in movie form October 17th.
The book is about high school sweethearts Dawson and Amanda. Dawson's family is considered to be the 'bad seeds' of their small North Carolina town, and Amanda is warned to stay away from him. However, she is drawn to Dawson, who really isn't that bad unlike most of his outlaw family members. The two are together for a year before Amanda's parents intervene by threatening to not pay for Amanda's college if she continues seeing Dawson. Amanda runs to Dawson who realizes that he's not the best for Amanda and cause the two to break up. The two meet for a mutual friend's funeral about 25 years later, and begin to fall in love again. However fate has different plans, like in true Nicholas Sparks fashion.
I'm not going to give away the ending...well because you all should read it.
I honestly thought that the book was excellant. It was a quick and light read, like most of Nicholas Sparks books are. It took me about a week, and it was only 292 pages long, which wasn't too bad at all. There were constant changes of points of view, which I honestly liked about the book, and the ending...well it was upsetting to leave it at that. Just be sure to have a box of tissues ready.
I reccommend this book to anyone who is in the mood for some good, old-fashioned chick lit. I've read many other Nicholas Sparks' novels, and this one didn't disappoint my expectations. It's romantic, sweet, and beautiful. Overall, I liked the book, and if you're looking for a quick read you should check it out.

Rating: 4 out of 5 stars.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Men Are From Mars; Women Are From Venus?

Have you ever heard the phrase that men are from mars, and women are from Venus? Gender is something that is a crazy line that continues to be blurred. We don't know much about the world of dating, or relationships. Or, at least I can't speak for myself when I say that. I get so confused when it comes to dating and trying to figure out the way that the opposite sex reacts. There seems to be a formula when it comes to dating--in order to attract a mate you have to follow this protocol. You have to wear a certain thing to become attractive. The guys fight to woo women with fancy dinners, and basically try to one up the other when it comes to getting the girl.
 In our culture, this is why what society calls 'geeks' or 'nerds' often have trouble getting the girl. The alpha, or the football player in our high school reference, are the ones surrounded by the many girls and often are the better looking. The same goes with the girls, with the high school cheerleader always getting the guys and the wallflower wondering when will be her time to shine. The bottom of the food chain in high school are often the ones ignored, no matter what gender they are. It's a popular topic for modern teen movies. 
Even though we behave the same whether we are either in the top, bottom, or middle of the foodchain we still are baffled by the opposite sex. And I wonder why that is. We pretty much work the same. We have beating hearts, air that circulates through our lungs, and see the same world for the most part. But, men are a mystery to me. It's no Nancy Drew novel, but I am still baffled about the mechanisms of  how the men's inner part of their brain work. But why are they so difficult?
Well, its safe to say that I don't have the answer to this, despite my education in modern magazines. There's always a section in Cosmo and in Seventeen about love and relationships. How can you get this person to like you? How can you seal the deal and become someone's girlfriend? It's like they have the secret formula to getting this, and we the consumer who wants it more than anything so we'll line up to get it like the new iPhone. Are we that different, though? 
Well men and women tend to percieve things differently. Women tend to want men that will come up to them as they are a damsel in distress with a white horse. Men want something different, but I'm not exactly sure what that is. But, the one thing that we all have no matter what gender we are (even if you are gender-queer; I haven't forgotton about you) the complete and utter confusion about the opposite sex still remains. Every high school melodrama and teenage angst pretty much has to do with it. Do they like me? Do they not like me?
So, are men from Mars? Are women from Venus? We may be coming from two separate planets, but we unite on the one thing--the complete and utter confusion of trying to figure out if someone likes you. In the mean time while you look for an answer if someone likes you, I'll be combing through the latest issue of Seventeen.
That's all folks..

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Manicure In A Bottle..

Welcome to the new Things I Love Tuesday, which has been revamped to the Things I Love Tuesdays! I am so excited for this new feature, as well as to introduce you to a new favorite product of mine! 

I like having painted nails more than anything. However, I don't like having the nail polish chip. Or having the nail polish take forever to dry. I've tried everything under the sun, from the nail strips that Sally Hansen puts out, to fast drying nail polish. However, it seemed like I couldn't have one without the other, which made it really annoying to paint my nails without making a giant mess out of everything.
Sally Hansen has heard my prayers. They recently came out with this nail polish line called Complete Salon Manicure. Although it's a bit more pricier than the other nail polishes that Sally Hansen offers, it was well worth it. (If you have a CVS card, then you might get Extra Care bucks towards it. That's what I did, and combined with a coupon, I paid virtually nothing.) I got the Kook A Mango color, which was a mix between red and pink. I have a thing about red nail polish, and it's constantly a go to when I paint my nails. 
I liked the nail polish because it dried quickly, and it dried kind of like a UV polish did. The product claims to have a top and bottom coat, which I did notice how shiny my nails were, and loved!I liked the color too, because red nail polish is a classic. Overall, it's a manicure in a bottle. But, even though it's a bit more expensive then I would like to be, I would totally buy more in this line. With the ExtraCare coupons, of course. 
So, if you're looking for a few new polishes, I suggest giving the Complete Manicure collection a try. I know that I would be going back for more!

Monday, October 6, 2014

Single By Choice

There is this song by the band 'The Bangles' called 'Single by Choice.' Despite the fact that I haven't listened to it for about two years, it's been stuck in my head lately. As a single girl, I can relate to it, because many people I know think that being with someone is their main priority in life. Needless to say, it's strange that some people believe that every woman needs a man in her life to complete her. Or, at least I do.
I've heard all of the things that people in relationships say to you when you're single. First, the ever so annoying question of 'why are you still single?' It is usually followed by the equally annoying 'You should try Tinder', 'stop watching Netflix and actually go and be social', or 'you'll find a good guy when you're least expecting it.'
How about no? #sorrysonotsorry
I am not single by choice, but single by fate. I've tried the whole online dating thing, but I would rather not be looked at like a piece of meat. Let's face it, the types of guys on Tinder are a bit obnxious, and I find them to be very obnoxious. Once again, I am so not sorry for my opinion. I work two jobs, and I go to school, which I want to actually succeed in doing. At the end of the week, I find Netflix to be a relaxing way to kick back and enjoy my day as it comes. I also don't like going out clubbing because I don't want to date the kinds of guys that hang out in bars. I  don't want to be someone's hook-up, or someone's one night stand. I am not that kind of girl, nor will I ever be.
Romantic movies have also clouded my judgement into being a combonation of fate, and in the end, the guy will come to you. Life is not like the movies, although let's face it sometimes you wish that Justin Long was your knight in shining armor to save you when you're a damsel in distress. Am I the only one who wants that? No, just me..okay cool.
As a younger girl, I've played with Barbie, who naturally has a Ken right beside her. Barbie was superwoman with her many outfits, and career choices. But, she had to have Ken by her side. (I was a 90s kid, this was before they broke up.)  Naturally, this programs girls into thinking that they have to have a man, in order to be successful.
I've been single for five years this October. Yes, that's a long time I know, and I'm working on getting some cats to become the crazy cat lady. (Except I'm allergic, so I don't know how that's going to go, so whatever) I believe that love is going to happen to me well whenever it does. I am the victim of fate, so hopefully I'll have my own love story to share with you before I go onto becoming queen of the universe. I believe that there's more to life than just becoming someone's wish, contrary to popular belief.
Of course, over the past five years I've been the type of person to see cute couples on my social networking and just for a second have a pang of jealousy to wishing that I was in their shoes. As a private person, I am not sure if I'll want to post my relationship status for my 1,000+ friends to see, at least not right away. I am the type of person to gag whenever there's a post about love, well most of the time.
 I'm not axing relationships, because I do eventually want to be in one. I do want the ending to my movie. However, I don't want that to be the only point of validation that I have. I don't want to be viewed as pathetic when I say 'I'm single.' Not having a boyfriend isn't the end of the world, despite what others may tell you. Eventually I'll find my man with my glass slipper. But, don't take pity on me because I haven't found the one that makes me happy. In the mean time, can we celebrate the fact that I work two jobs, and go to school and still manage to keep my sanity?
Thank you, and good day.

Friday, October 3, 2014

Things That My Future Husband/Partner Should Know

This was inspired by this Thought Catalog article!
Everyone in this world always dream about the type of person that you want to marry. I'm not sure of what I'm going to do with my life in that department, but I do have an idea of the type of person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. He has to be awesome, like to cuddle with me, and of course be able to...well make me feel like a million bucks whenever I am in his presence. But, there's somethings that I feel like my partner should know in my life. Here's the things that my future husband should know about me..if he happens to be reading this then he will probably have some kind of advantage.

  1. I have a Snoopy addiction, and chances are that our house will have tons of Snoopy themed things. #dealwithit
  2. I put up a front that makes me all tough but in reality I want you to hold me close and tell me that I'm pretty. I push people away, but in reality, I want them to become closer. That's what I do when I'm hurt or sad. 
  3. I worry too much. I'll worry that I'm being annoying, and I'll worry that you'll leave me. Please ignore the worry, because I really can't control it. 
  4. I promise there will be lots of cookies in our home. 
  5. I want us to never go to bed angry. 
  6. I want you to know that I'd love you no matter what. Unless you came home with someone else, because then it's over.
  7.  If we have children, then our family will be my first priority.
  8. I promise to always come home to you, and tell you about my day. I promise to not become obsessed with my job, because you're also something that is worth more than money.
  9. Sometimes, all I want you to do is hold me. 
  10. I swear like a sailor. 
At this point in my life, I can't see myself being married. (I'm only 20.) But if you're out there, I hope to find you. Wherever you happen to be. 

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Society and the Single Girl-Domestic Drama

Recently, I was cooking with my mother. FIrst of all, let me tell you all-- I am not the world's best cook. Anyways, I was epically failing so she turns around and says 'your husband is going to leave you if you don't learn how to cook.' When I said that I may or may not want to get married she gave me a look as if to say 'well, what else are you going to do?'
Hold on. 
What does marriage have to do with not being such a good cook? 
In our society, gender plays a huge role even though nobody would want to admit it. Girls are taught how to tend to others, and cook/bake. Guys are taught to build things and to be adventerous. Guys have the career, and the girl is the one at home in an apron baking apple pie. Women can never have a career, and have a family. They have to be adaptable to the man, almost to the point where they depend on them. 
Ok. No. 
I can't cook, and I want to be in a relationship where I am someone's equal. I don't want to do the whole housewife thing. I don't want to tend to children and be a stay at home mom. At the same time, I don't want to do the Miranda Pressely thing where I am a total slave to my job, and my family just sees me on occaision. Why does it have to be one or the other? 
We live in a society where if you go to bend the rules its okay, but if you dare to break them than you are shunned. I don't get why that is. Why can't the man cook, if he wants to? Why can't the man and the woman be the breadwinner of the family? Why do we even have to wear a white dress to validate that our relationship is forever? 
I don't have the answer to all of that perfectly honest. I do know how I feel about this. Personally, at this point in my life I don't know what is going to happen. I could get married. I might not-I might end up being in a partnership instead. I want someone that will accept me despite the fact that I can't cook, can write like Carrie Bradshaw, and want to spend lazy Sundays watching 'New Girl.' Every relationship is different, like every person on the planet. Domestic abilities shouldn't be a factor of whether or not a mate is okay. 
So to all of the girls out there who are single, in their early 20s like me. Be yourself. Burn pancakes. Spend your Sundays watching Netflix. Eat a lot of cupcakes. Whether you have a plus one, or no one remember that you will always be fabolous. 
And that's a fact.