"Let's Talk About Love."

It's safe to say that there's different kinds of love. There's infatuation, which can be upright annoying. True love, which is what we all want at the end of the day. In psychology there is a theory called the triangular theory of love which was developed by Robert Sternberg.
In the context of relationships, that means that there's three components of love. The first component of love is intimacy, which is the feeling of attachment, and how connected you are to someone. The second is passion which brings out how we are attracted to someone sexually. The third is commitment, which is the plans that we have with that other person, whether short or long term that we have for that person in mind.
Now, let's take those three components that I just mentioned and place it into another concept. Our everyday relationships. Chances are you love many people in different ways, am I right? Well, here's the different kinds of love, psychology style.

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• Nonlove; there's none of the three components mentioned. 

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• Liking/Friendship; The feeling that you have with friends, and anyone that you are involved in a platonic sense. (Friendzoning someone applies here too)
• Infatuated Love; This is how romantic relationships are started. This is the "I want you now.." aspect of a relationship. Often, if it's meant to last, as people get closer, than true love will somehow develop. This is more the obsessive aspect of love. This is the aspect of passion, without intimacy, which of course occurs later. 
• Empty Love; This is the aspect of a loveless marriage; committment with out the intimacy or the passion. Basically you're loving someone with the aspect of using them for some sort of thing. Whether it's money or for the sake of having someone, it's up to you.
• Romantic Love; A combination of the intimacy and passion aspects. They are drawn together by two things-physical and romantic. However, there's not sort of commitment to them. I guess we can define this as friends with benefits. 

• Companion Love; It's intimate, and has commitment. It's stronger than friendship, however, there's no sort of passion. One can say that you find this in long marriages when the passion runs out. This also an example of family love. 
• Fatuous Love; You know those whirlwind relationships or marriages? Yeah this is it. No intimacy here my friends. 

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• Consummate Love; The complete form of love that has all of these components! This is the kind of love that everyone wants out there. These peeps can't imagine themselves in the longterm with anyone else but that said loved one. However, you guys in this love need to express it, or else we can turn this into companion love. This is the dictionary definition of meant to me

There you go, folks. What kind of love are you in? 

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Who Are You to Judge?

Lately, something has been bothering me. I've been thinking about the way that we view the people that are around us. Why do we view them the way that we view them? Most importantly, why do people think that based on their profession they are good people?
Well I don't believe that to be true. I don't believe that the judgement of good versus evil is a matter that cuts deeper then simply based on what they do. I believe that there is more to human nature than that. There is more layers to us then the ones that we show to the public.
As Freud says personality is like an iceberg called the ID, ego and super-ego. The ID is the basic part of personality that begins with your basic wants and desires. It is believed to be the source of our wants, desires and impulses. Things that are presented in the ID often go unnoticed or are repressed. It is the only parts of personality that is presented at birth. The ego is our source of reality. It seeks to bring the id pleasure. In other words, its the more logical angle of our personality, in addition to our defensive functions. Our super-ego is society's influence on our personality, including but not limited to norms. The super-ego aims for perfection and nothing less. The super-ego aims to please in a social setting, while our id aims to please no matter what; right there right now.
Our personalities are in many layers. Therefore, we can not judge a person based on their profession. There should be many criteria to judging a person. Hasty judgement can often be wrong judgement.
And what should we judge a person on? We should judge them based on their experiences that they've had and how they've managed to cope. We should judge the person that they've made out of themselves, instead of where their journey had began. We should judge them by how they treat the people that are around them daily. Judge them about the multiple layers of our personality, not just the petty schema of society. We should not judge them based on a profession, where they come from, and who their parents are. Also, judgment should stretch farther then where we went to school, and the amount of money that you make in a year. And who they go home to? You're not also in the position to judge that either.
We are complex beings. Therefore, we should not be judged simply.