It's a Cliche Thing...It May Exist

Sometimes, things can be so cliche and sweet that just looking at them can give you a cavity. You've seen it before, and you've probably encountered them each and every day of your life. Especially with yesterday being Valentine's Day. It was cliche central.
A cliche, for all of you non English majors out there, is something that is so common that it lacks original thought. And in love, we often find that there's several cliches that are often true. They are just extremely overused, and therefore the metaphor becomes dead.
However, what if you meet someone that makes you so weak in the knees, gives you butterflies in your stomach, and makes you feel like you're shiny and new (thank you Madonna)? What if there's someone out there that makes you feel like 'hey I don't mean to be that cliched couple that makes me want to gag and throw things at people'?
Huzzah, there's truth behind the cliche.
Therefore, there's some people that can take the most cynical of cynics and make them believe. The people who once mocked Valentine's Day, love, and relationships, are now on the rooftops singing some crazy love song. There's a lot of hidden truths behind the cliche, and despite the fact that they are overused, they are real in the flesh. There's people out there, for all of us, who make us feel wonderful for the time being, and makes us feel like yes there's some reason to be happy.
At the end of the day, we try to avoid the facts that there's someone out there that converts us into being a believer to all of those things. That in fact, Prince Charming exists. That there's a fairy tale ending planned for someone whose been pretty sure that only exists in the movies.
You just have to find that person to help you believe. 

Society and the Single Girl on Valentine's Day.

Okay, so every year like clockwork it happens. On Feb 14th, my social networking feeds I see them clouded with people talking about one thing. Their boyfriends, their girlfriends, whoever they are trying to impress or woo. People that they love, and they just really want everyone that they follow or that they are friends with to know. And for the people who don't have anyone to do that for them, it just kind of sucks. In my opinion anyways.
One thing that I really don't like about Valentine's Day is that it raises the bar of what we expect people to be. I think that we don't need a day in the calendar year for someone to buy us diamonds, and tell us that we are the best part of their existence. Yes, I am aware that it's nice. However, I think that there should be more to it than just that. I think that if you love someone, than you shouldn't have to do it on command, rather you should do it when you want to. I think that it adds a lot of pressure to relationships, because if someone doesn't buy you roses today then they are the worst person ever. It makes the guy sweat over something that has to be perfect. It makes them do or say things that perhaps they shouldn't be saying because they don't actually mean it, and are going along with it for the whole reason on what that's what Valentine's Day is supposed to be about.
As someone who got rejected one Valentine's Day (It was 8th grade when no one really understood relationships anyways), I can honestly say that Valentine's Day does have that effect on some people. However, I realize something else. Just because you don't have a Valentine doesn't mean you can't celebrate it.
This year, I've decided to totally decided to embrace the whole day of love kind of thing. I've painted my nails red and pink, in honor of the day of love kind of thing. I even bought some Valentine's to send to some of my friends that are farther away, and a few to my family and friends. I've gotten some Valentine's Day themed cupcakes, just because cupcakes are awesome. On Friday, I don't have any interesting plans other than to hang out with my dog, and just watch movies or Gilmore Girls. I've gotten a long weekend from school, so I have the day off. And that's okay, because I know that my day is going to be awesome nonetheless.
Wanna do something, and you find yourself Valentineless? No prob. Grab a movie, go shopping, and most important grab your single girls. You all will have a better time than those people in relationships anyways. 

"Let's Talk About Love."

It's safe to say that there's different kinds of love. There's infatuation, which can be upright annoying. True love, which is what we all want at the end of the day. In psychology there is a theory called the triangular theory of love which was developed by Robert Sternberg.
In the context of relationships, that means that there's three components of love. The first component of love is intimacy, which is the feeling of attachment, and how connected you are to someone. The second is passion which brings out how we are attracted to someone sexually. The third is commitment, which is the plans that we have with that other person, whether short or long term that we have for that person in mind.
Now, let's take those three components that I just mentioned and place it into another concept. Our everyday relationships. Chances are you love many people in different ways, am I right? Well, here's the different kinds of love, psychology style.

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• Nonlove; there's none of the three components mentioned. 

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• Liking/Friendship; The feeling that you have with friends, and anyone that you are involved in a platonic sense. (Friendzoning someone applies here too)
• Infatuated Love; This is how romantic relationships are started. This is the "I want you now.." aspect of a relationship. Often, if it's meant to last, as people get closer, than true love will somehow develop. This is more the obsessive aspect of love. This is the aspect of passion, without intimacy, which of course occurs later. 
• Empty Love; This is the aspect of a loveless marriage; committment with out the intimacy or the passion. Basically you're loving someone with the aspect of using them for some sort of thing. Whether it's money or for the sake of having someone, it's up to you.
• Romantic Love; A combination of the intimacy and passion aspects. They are drawn together by two things-physical and romantic. However, there's not sort of commitment to them. I guess we can define this as friends with benefits. 

• Companion Love; It's intimate, and has commitment. It's stronger than friendship, however, there's no sort of passion. One can say that you find this in long marriages when the passion runs out. This also an example of family love. 
• Fatuous Love; You know those whirlwind relationships or marriages? Yeah this is it. No intimacy here my friends. 

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• Consummate Love; The complete form of love that has all of these components! This is the kind of love that everyone wants out there. These peeps can't imagine themselves in the longterm with anyone else but that said loved one. However, you guys in this love need to express it, or else we can turn this into companion love. This is the dictionary definition of meant to me

There you go, folks. What kind of love are you in? 

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Music Monday; Valentine's Edition

Hey there, everyone. Following the tradition of love themed posts this week, first up is some awesome tunes. After all, music is the language of love. Have no valentine? Have no fear, we have a playlist for you as well! So, get your iPod ready for that special night, here's some of my favorite songs for you to play, whether you're riding solo or not!

For the Lovebirds;

• I've Had the Time of My Life by Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes (From Dirty Dancing)
• Check Yes Juliet by We the Kings 
• Hold onto Me by Mayday Parade 
• Crazy by Aerosmith 
• Deuces are Wild by Aerosmith 
• I Don't Want to Miss a Thing by Aerosmith 
• Candyman by Christina Aguilera
• Ain't No Other Man by Christina Aguilera 
• You're the Inspiration by Chicago
• Crazy for You by Madonna
• Young and Beautiful by Lana Del Rey 
• Teenage Dream by Katy Perry 

For the Singles;

• 1 2 Step by Ciara 
• Single by Natasha Bedingfield 
• Ladies Night by Kool and the Gang 
• Get Down Tonight by KC and the Sunshine Band
• Walk this Way by Aerosmith 
• Prima Donna by Christina Aguilera 
• Venus by Lady Gaga 
• Blurred Lines by Robin Thicke

Here's to a rocking Valentine's Day! 

Introducing the Week of Love

Hey readers! Okay, so you all are in for an awesome treat this week! I'm getting all in the spirit for Valentine's Day this year by making love themed posts, and just trying to spread the love! Tune in for love themed playlists, and just for more fun stuff in general!

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