Friday, April 24, 2015

Why Sometimes You've Gotta Break Up With Friends

Friendships are supposed to be keeping you afloat, not being the anchor that lets you sink. However, toxic friendships can often well cause negativity in life. This can often result in bring you down as well.
I believe that a friend should be there for you in good times and in bad. Why? Well, not every moment in life is not going to be spend partying like it's 1999. Sometimes, you're going to need someone to tell you the world's not always going to suck. Or if it's a boyfriend, it's going to be that not all guys are mean and evil. I mean come on. Look at Ben and Jerry.
If a friend is making you upset for any reason, the first thing that you've got to do is talk to them. They really can't read your mind. Talking about how you feel is always a good thing. Just make sure that whatever you're going to say isn't accusatory. Basically, just be careful about how you say it.
However, sometimes there are times when you need to let go of friends. It can be for whatever reason, but if you're unhappy with the way that you're being treated that's okay. No one deserves to be treated unfairly. I mean, no one does no matter what.
Basically, if someone isn't making you happy then you have the right to say so and choose the role that they play in your lives. If they are treating you less than you deserve, than you have the right to exclude or delete them in your life.
Lately, I've been noticing what's a good friend and what's not. Sometimes, a lot of my friends complain too much and bring me down. When this happens, I learn to step away. Otherwise, it will allow me to be negative as well.
My number one pet peeve is when people complain and don't do anything about the source of their complaints. It may sound cruel, but it's true. If you're complaining about something, why don't you try to fix what's broken? I'm tired of having to hear the same things over and over again. This is when you need to learn to step away from the negativity, and enjoy the good things in life. Like cookies, the ocean, and sunshine.
At the end of the day, you are who you surround yourself with. So why don't you surround yourself with happiness?

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