Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Society and the Single Girl: Relationship or Career?

It seems that there are two types of girls. The first type is the type that puts their career first. They are driven, yet lonely. The second type is the type who puts their relationship first. They are the type of people who have regrets of the things they did because of their relationship.
I am neither of those people. While I am not in a relationship, I am thriving in my career. In fact, one can say that I am in a full-fledged relationship with my career. I currently have two journalism related jobs. One of them is my internship at College Fashionista. The other one is becoming a staff writer at my hometown newspaper. Both of those jobs I love and I am so happy that I have those opportunities to do so. Whether it's interviewing someone for the Hamden Journal or scoping out a Style Guru for my College Fashionista internship, I am in love with it. Every day, I become more and more in love with it. With that being said, I believe that I've found passion that I've only heard when people talk about their partners.
While I am thriving on the career front, I am currently having nothing to report on the romantic front. It's probably because of the fact that I have been so busy with my journalism opportunities. Either way, a relationship for me just hasn't happened. However, when it does, I know that I want to be more than the girl whose relationship is her biggest accomplishment. I want it to be one of them, but it not being my whole life. I have a lot going for me, and it's still going. I still have more living to do and more opportunities will soon be on their way. Relationships, on the other hand, will come and go. But as Lady GaGa once said "when choosing to pick between your boyfriend or your career pick your career because it won't get up and leave you."
 However, I firmly believe that you shouldn't have to pick between the two. We should get to have our cake and eat it too. Careers and love should be center to one's life and have equal amounts of importance. But, sometimes they will be one priority over the other. And for me, right now, it will be my career. For others, it will be their relationship. And whenever I get a chance to be in a relationship, I will be sure not to have it overpower my career. 


  1. I completely agree! I'm in a relationship but (in any relationship) I make it clear not to let me get in the way of their work, family, or friends (and vice versa). I planned to focus on building my circus troupe and keep single until I'm ready to have a family. I'm happy for your success in journalism!! Keep it up!

    - Harlynn

    1. Thank you so much! And good luck with that as well. I think it's important as well not to let someone control you or detour you from doing so.