Friday, May 2, 2014

Society and the Single Girl-I'm That Girl

It seems like everyone and their mother is anxious to get married. Anxious to put on a white gown to say "I do", surrounded by girls wearing dresses that were not nearly as good as the bride's, and by a bunch of other fancy things. Whether it's on Pinterest, when girls (okay fine, I do this too) make boards of their future wedding, or when we're binge watching Say Yes to the Dress on Netflix, we're all so obsessed with the future, and the big I Do.
However, I would like to be socially unacceptable and say that at this point of my life I don't have the goals of getting married. I'm still a teenager. I'll turn 20 in July, and already I feel like I'm required to give everyone a "save the date card." Even though I'm single. I barely know what I want to do with my life, where I'm going when I leave college, but it's okay. Let's slap a huge diamond on my finger, and let me get married.
I feel like many people nowadays have a bullet-point list of their lives. "At this age, I'll be married". "At this age, I'll have a baby." We want to control things, and that's really just great. But, there's so many things in life that we can't control. Like natural disasters, like deaths, like divorce. Let's face it, life throws us some pretty harsh curve-balls. That's when your plans don't exactly mean much, because you have to take what you're given. The most that we can do is make lemonade out of our sour lemons, and that's sometimes good because hey I like lemonade.
As of right now, I don't wish to get married. Part of it is that I don't have a significant other. A larger part is that I'm not even 20 yet. There is so much out there that I want to do, and there's so much out there that I want to see before I wear a giant diamond. I want to go out with my friends, to clubs, and just experiencing life in general. I want to go to Canada, Italy, Paris, London, and perhaps Tokyo. I want to have a stable job, and know where I'm going everyday from 9-5. I don't want to be held back from things, and I don't want to resent getting married too young as the reason why I didn't go to do what I originally set out to do in the first place. I want to be able to say I did stuff, other than just wait around for my future child's father to call me. I have goals, and things to do with my life that are outside the home.
One day though, I'll be sitting my kids down the way that Ted sits his children down in the hit television show, "How I Met Your Mother", and tell them all about how I met their father. However, that will happen when it happens. When the time comes, my opinions might change. But as of right now, I don't want to get married.


  1. Well, all I can say is wow, what a Post. It seems to me for an individual barely being twenty you really have it together. There is so much to do and so much to accomplish in life, so much to experience, and to learn about yourself first. And life does throw you curve balls, maturity and experience enables one to handle these with grace. This is not to say if the love of ones life happens to appear and it is the real thing that it is wrong, certainly not, many successful young marriages have begun this way- still, today, there is too much easily experienced to miss out! And all those planning these early or same marital dates as friends, oops, pardon me, but really, sigh, sigh, boring. Wishing you a happy fulfilling life ahead!

  2. I agree with you! Thank you for the compliments :D